Its been Six months & we haven't done it YET??

Assuming that he is sober more than he is drunk, it's his sober personae you are going to be living with -- not his sweet and adoring but drunk personae. If his sober self is a good work mate, a good play mate, and emotionally stable then a marraige might be in the cards. But not for a few years, until you get to know him better.

I think most of us prefer the "I love my wife soooo much, sniffle sniffle" type of drunk to the "You looking for a fight, buddy?" type of drunk. I'm assuming that you are both young and you can help him learn to be a responsible drinker who knows when to say when.

I certainly not would consider drunken sentamentalism as a reason to intitiate physical intimacy. You should have sex because you feel like having sex -- not because someone begs, bullies, blackmails, browbeats, or otherwise manipulates you into it.

You're the girl with the good stuff all the guys want, and YOU call the shots.

That's a tough call. I dated someone a long while back that had an interesting expression:

Two people that tell the truth are drunks and kids.

I guess there is some truth to that.

My wife and I waited LONGER than 6 months before anything happened, and even then it was elevated to the next level SLOWLY. I was into her, and wanted to take it slow and serious. Perhaps that's what is happening here. If he was a "player," he would have moved on a long while back.

How does he talk when he is sober? I don't think there is anything wrong with him opening up to you...even if other guys would make fun of it.

Only you can be the judge. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. When someone really loves you, you know it, they look at you different, and you can feel it in every part of your body. You don't even have to question it, the feeling is unmistakeable. Just because he said those things one night when he was drinking doesn't mean that they are completely true, and I am not saying that it isn't true either, but prior to him saying those things did you feel the love. People say I love you all the time and it really doesn't mean anything, they say it in one breath and in the next are cheating on you, abusing you, or leaving you etc. I mean it is really all in the actions that tells you if someone loves you.

Read this. It is so worth it.

Touching words from the mouth of kids....

What does Love mean?

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds,

"What does love mean?"

The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have

imagined. See what you think :

"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and

paint her toenails anymore.

So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands

got arthritis too. That's love."

Rebecca- age 8

"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.

You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."

Billy - age 4 (I love this one)

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"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving

cologne and they go out and smell each other."

Karl - age 5 (Stacy's favorite) LOL

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your

French fries without making them give you any of theirs."

Chrissy - age 6

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

Terri - age 4

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"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes

a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

Danny - age 7

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired

of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.

My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss"

Emily - age 8

"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop

opening presents and listen."

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with

a friend who you hate,"

Nikka - age 6

(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears

it everyday."

Noelle - age 7

"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are

still friends even after they know each other so well."

Tommy - age 6

"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."

Elaine-age 5

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says

he is handsomer than Robert Redford."

Chris - age 7

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left

him alone all day."

Mary Ann - age 4

"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her

old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."

Lauren - age 4

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little

stars come out of you." (what an image)

Karen - age 7

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't

think it's gross."

Mark - age 6

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But

if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

Jessica - age 8

And the final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked

about a contest he was asked to judge.

The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

"Nothing, I just helped him cry"

Yes, his inhibitions were lowered while under the influence of the alcohol. I believe that is how he actually feels, but might be afraid to admit it when sober. Give him a safe, confrontation free environment where he doesn't need to be drunk to say what he feels. Being vulnerable is as much undesirable to a man as anything you would absolutely refuse to do. If he feels vulnerable, he won't respond, or may become very angry. He does love you, he is just scared of how you might respond. Give him the safe harbor he needs to be as up front to you, as you want him to be.

I would ask him about it when he is sober. There was a guy in college who drank vodka and orange juice from a calf nursing bottle all night. By the end of the night he said alot of the same things your bf said to you, to me, but, we were not dating. Your guy probably does love you, but, it should definitely be something that is talked about with neither party is drinking.

As a bloke I say this. Never, NEVER, trust ANYTHING said while he has had a drink or 4. If he cannot say it sober, he is a total waste of space.

Regarding intimacy, time is no indicator of when to start being intimate.

I don't trust blokes at all, that is why I go out with girls!! :))) Blokes are a waste of space, most of them. I don't know how you girls put up with it.

Is he asking for sex during these "emotional" times? If so, that may be how he is getting up the nerve to pressure you. If you don't want sex, don't have sex. It's that simple. so what if he dumps you for someone that will. Most likely he would have anyway after having his way. If not asking, catch him sober and talk about the real issue. He may just not have the nerve to "pop" the question.

If he doesn't say them when he's sober, I would be hesitant to believe him. But, then again, he could just be afraid to say them when he's sober. Ask him about it. Be honest with him and tell him if he only said it cause he was drunk then that's okay but just be honest and don't get upset with him if he answers yes. Kudos to you on not giving in to the pressures of society and having sex right away.

We don't even know this guy. Can't you get him to talk sober? Most men don't go in for a bunch of drama. If he wants to have a family he'll tell you.

It's a good sign that he's taking your relationship seriously. Sometimes you get the truth out of a drunken state.

Talk to him when he's sober.