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Right to be mad?
I invited a couple to my birthday dinner at a rest. I called them a wk in advance to let them know that it will be an adult dinner no kids. I specifically said no kids because my son won’t be attending and it wouldn’t be fair or make sense that they bring their child. I go to the same rest every yr which they are aware of & we never bring our kids w/ us. This time I just happen to make such a request to make sure that they have enough time to get a baby sitter or a few hours that Fri. Since they were invited to my dinner I have no problem forking out the bill like I always do each yr, so 1 request such as that shouldn’t be a big problem. But I guess it is to them, on that Fri they called & said their baby sitter is not avail. They would have to bring their child w/ them. I suggested they have their child w/ my son at my mom’s house for a few hrs so us adult can have dinner. They go off & say, we will bring him he will not eat & we’ll have his PSP so he won’t bother us.
A few min later they say he wants to come because he wants to eat. I said the point of having no kids is because my own won’t be attending, & it wouldn’t hurt to leave the child w/ my mom for a few hrs. We’ve done this before why is it such a big deal? They act like they’ve never left their child someplace for a few hrs & do their own thing. If I wanted a family dinner I would have mention that not requested that it would be an adult dinner only. So they end up not coming to my dinner. I don’t feel they should have acted the way they did.
I meant to say, by the way they reacted, do they have the right to be mad at me?
This couple are good friends of ours and I am more disappointed in them then I am mad. My son is 6, theirs is 7, their child may be more aggressive then mine is but I’m sure my mom would be able to handle them both since dinner wouldn’t be more than 3 hours. She’s done this before it’s not like she is a stranger to their child. I’m even more disappointed in the fact that they can’t seem to say NO to their child. He gets away with so many things that it irritates me a bit, if my son were to do the things their child did mines would have been grounded or action be taken. Their parental skills seems to be the problem here and I’m not sure how to address it to them without hurting their feelings.
4 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Your friends were completely out of line. You gave them ample time to schedule a babysitter and even offered up your own mother as a sitter. You should not have been required to allow one child, just because they were being difficult. It was your birthday party and you had every right to lay down a few ground rules. There is nothing wrong with an "adult night out," sans children.
- Beckie BLv 41 decade ago
I would say that you had a right to be DISAPPOINTED that your friends couldn't join you for your birthday dinner. IBut I think being mad is a little too strong especially if they are dear friends. I would tell them that I was disappointed that they couldn't come and that perhaps you all can have dinner with the kids at another time. Sometimes people don't like leaving thier children with a sitter that they don't know that well or perhaps they felt that your mom wouldn't be able to handle both children.(depending on the age of the children even two kids can be a handful for an older person to watch.I hope your birthday dinner was great anyhow and that you can patch things up with your freinds. Good freinds are very special and you don't want to let a misunderstanding get in the way.
- 1 decade ago
Way out of line. If they wanted to spend time with their child this is what they should have done and told you they could not make it b/c they want to spend time with their child. Do not invite them to a no kids event again..
- Anonymous1 decade ago
hey you have the right to be mad they over reacted about it and anyways you gave them more than enough time in advance.