Which is more PAINFUL????

If they're sick you have a chance to say goodbye. My dad died from violence and we had argued the last time I saw him. If I knew he was gonna die, I wouldn't not have been such a *****.

Either way... you're losing someone you love. It doesn't matter how they are taken...they are gone. People feel just as angry if it were a disease/sickness as they do if it were from violence. Both were completely unforseen. Especially if the disease or sickness has no chance for recovery or cure. There's nothing that can be done about it. Same with violence. I know all of the "stop the violence" people out there think that there is a way to end it permanently, but I heavily disagree. It's going to be around as long as disease and sicknesses are... it's part of the world we live in.

Losing someone regardless of how or why is always painful and I don't really think that you can honestly rate which one is worse. The only difference I can see is that losing someone from a sickness gives you a little time to prepare and to say good bye where losing someone from violence is sudden and one never gets to say those last words that end up haunting you.

Losing a loved one fr violence in more PAINFUL!

Both suck. Perhaps losing a loved one to sickness is the hardest, as you can hate someone that performed the violence. It's hard + silly to be angry at a disease.

Losing a loved one from violence is def. more painful because if you look at it anyone can catch something fatal and die but violence doesnt have to kill you necssarily, that person wants you to die and then you look at the circumstances that led to their death, you can get over someone dying from a sickness far better than you would someone getting killed and the way they were killed. Im from Phila, Pa and my cousin Deanna Wright McIntocsh (R.I.P) in 2004 was brutally raped, beaten, burned, cut up, fed to a dog and then put in a barrel drum and put in an alley. That didnt have to happen to her and the guy who did it was 5x her size and 2x her age. This was a horrible incident that didnt have to occur. So thats my answer.

That's something I personally couldn't pick and choose. I lost my mom to a rare blood disease when I was 2. That was painful. I haven't lost anyone close to me from violence, but, obviously that hurts. BOTH are equally painful. Neither one has to happen. (There could be a cure found, violence can stop if those involved choose to cease.)

Losing someone from violence. Both hurt, no doubt. Violence is just so damn senseless though. We are powerless over some illnesses, but we can make a choice whether or not to be violent.

Depends on the person. Everyone reacts differently to death. Losing someone to disease may seem less painful, but watching them fade away over a long period of time can be devastating. Having them taken quickly sometimes seems less painful. But both are tragic.

Everything is like a scale, thats like some thing that weights more or lesser. Just like if you lost someone special, the pain is you can't describe, its just like you missed someone like... you could never met forever. If is a disease or die because of old age, it is not as 'pain' as losing somebody special life. Most old folks don't feel anything if their husband/wife had just died they just grief for their him/her. Because most old-folks could understand:"when we arrive the end, we must continue walking but not stopping or turning back." I listen from an old man, he sad:"we're walking for 80 years, why stop and go way back into love?"

When a loved one dies from a disease or othe medical reason, we can rationalize and believe their suffering is over.

We still miss them terribly but this offers some consolation.

From a violent act however, we only have the terrific grief of losing a love one. For this reason I feel the violent act is more traumatic.