Is it normal to feel guilty about having an "easy" baby?

Trust me, I'm not going to tell you to not feel guilty, because that question could've been posted from me myself. It sounds just like my baby and how I feel.

My pregnancy went great, not morning sickness or anything, the delivery was a sinch, and he is the best baby. Only cries when hungry, goes to sleep on his own just fine, is always laughing and cooing, he is the best baby.

And I feel guilty for it too, I don't deserve such a great baby. I'm also paranoid something bad will happen and this is just the calm before the storm. I'm also paranoid my next baby will make up for it and be horrible.

So, even if it's not normal to feel this way, at least we're not alone in feeling this way!

Pretty much any feeling is normal for mothers of infants. Hormones can play a big part in this.

I have odd fears as well. My son is 13 months old, and I *still* have to make sure he's breathing several times a night. I have actually plotted how I would get him out of the house if it were on fire or a serial killer was after us. It's normal to fear all sorts of things as a mother.

I have no idea where the guilt would come into play. I'm extremely amused whenever my boyfriend's mother complains of how difficult he was, when our son is so easily pleased.

I believe every parent is lucky, regardless of how their baby/child behaves...but you also deserve it. Your son wouldn't be so happy if you mistreated or neglected him. By all means, feel guilty if you'd like - it's far better than taking it for granted - but you don't have to. Try to let go of your worries and just enjoy your child.

Rather than wasting your energy on feeling guilty or paranoid that it will come to an end...be grateful.

I had a very easy-going first child. My second child was a handful. I love them both the same. I wouldn't put so much thought into this and just be happy that you have it so "easy". Some moms don't!

Why in the world do you need the "right" to feel guilty about having an easy-going baby? You should feel blessed...it's making it easier on the child, too! It's not just about you. For goodness sake.. I should put you in touch with someone I know that just had a baby about 3 months ago, and her little one is up all day long and all night long. They are both sleep-deprived. She would trade situations with you in a heartbeat!!

Okay...let's phrase this in a different way... it's not that you're WRONG to feel guilty, it's that most people want you to set aside the guilt feeling and try another one on for size!!!

My mother always says:

Easy baby= good mother.

So congratulate yourself!

That being said, the reverse is not true. Just because your baby is difficult doesn't mean your a bad parent. Sometimes babies have issues with digestion and other stuff so they are very difficult.

You are lucky in that your baby doesn't seem to have any issues which could make him cranky. But you're doing a lot of the work too! It's because of this work that your baby is easy. You will NEVER see an "easy" baby with a lazy or inattentive mother! You've created this situation through your hard work.

I currently have an 18mth and a 7mth, we got extremely lucky with both babies, Especially our youngast little boy, they were/are very happy babies, we only had 2 weeks of colic with our daughter (our eldest) and that was only because of having her on store bought formular, when we changed to a home made natural formular the colic instantly stopped, until her brother came along almost a year later he never had an upset stomach, cold or even diaper rash and our little boy got his first teeth threw without even screaming or fussing, we didn't actually notice until they had already broken threw the skin. At the same time they can both have bad days and normally together so it means screaming in tandem. I too feel bad because I get stressed and frustrated on those bad days and yet I know I have it easy compared to a lot of mothers.

I know what you mean, all three of my kids were sleeping through the night at 3 months, smiling all the time, fit free, and still do almost anything I ask of them at 7, 6, and 3...though the 3 year old has her moments of being tired, and the 7 year old sometimes sneaks into stuff....while my friends kids don't sleep all night even at like 3 years old, and constantly throwing fits, or saying NO! I have felt guilty about listening to what my friends are going through but then I realize I must just be lucky, and I should spend my time enjoying my "easy" kids before they grow up into difficult but normal teenagers!! Good luck.

I'm glad you're having such a wonderful time with your baby. I'm sure your mom-friends are having a wonderful time with their babies too. If a baby is colicky or is cranky, doesn't mean they're a bad baby and their moms don't enjoy them. When babies are teething, they will be cranky. When your baby is having his moments, isn't that the same as a colicky cranky baby. Taking your baby to a pediatrician is taking your baby to a specialist (this doctor's speciality is pediatrics). Your mom-friends knows exactly how you feel, because they feel the exact same way about their babies as you do yours. Please don't look for bad in other people's children. While you're talking about their babies and children, someone is seeing bad in yours and they're talking yours.

Don't feel guilty. Just tell others you were blessed with an easy baby and you hope the next one won't be karma coming back at you for such an easy first.

I did. My son is almost 2 and I have had such a blast with him. He is so easy going. If I say "do you want to go night, night", he grabs his giraffe and heads towards the stairs. I always felt guilty about how great he was to raise (so far, knock on wood). But I am pregnant with my second and I am afraid my "luck" or whatever you call it is going to change. LOL

U cannot be guilty of having an easy baby. A mother must be proud of whatever child she has. Although im a young man n i will never experience giving birth to a baby. But im sure when a mother had given birth to her lovely baby, no matter what is the condition she willl be proud n provide all the love she had. I love my mother.