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What qualifies as sex?

In a previous question, someone asked if fooling around before marriage was ok as long as you didn't have sex. I personally have no problem with premarital sex, but for people who believe this, how do you define what is sex and what isn't? I've heard of some Christian girls who believed this who would have anal sex or oral sex and still claim virginity. I've even heard of a girl who got herpes in her armpit because of the belief that premarital sex was wrong.

Update:

If anal and oral aren't sex, are gay men perpetual virgins?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    anal sex and oral sex are sex acts that qualify as sins if you aren't married.

  • 7 years ago

    Personally, I believe regular sex, anal sex and oral sex are all completely legitimate ways of sex--meaning they don't even qualify in the "messing around" category--because they are all sex. Period. I do not consider touching/fondling/making out to be sex of any kind (although I was raised to believe they were all wrong, but do not believe it myself). I had normal sex first, but if I'd had anal or oral I would still not have considered myself a virgin anymore. Seriously, how do you have anal sex without knowing you're not a virgin anymore? LOL, it's hard for me to imagine.

    On a side note, I've even heard of Christian girls who believe that if they kiss on the lips once they've lost a large amount of their virginity. I've gotten to the point that I believe that virginity is in the eye of the beholder. However, a good rule of thumb most people can probably agree on is if any body part is inserted into another person's private body part, it's sex. (Whether in the vagina, in the "back" or in the mouth.)

  • 7 years ago

    Doubt that she got herpes in her armpit. Never heard of that one. religion and sex is so oppressive. your a man, good grief. Sex has to have penetration such as a penis into vagina. Oral sex is foreplay which doesn't count as sexual intercourse. Sin or sexual sin for that matter is lust. The bible tells you that even if your right eye causes you to sin than you should toss it into the fire. Its about purity of mind, so as to go physically with it is even worse "on a biblically level". -no exception's, no altercations etc...

    Personally, I believe that exploring your sexual side is a normal part of adult hood but just be careful; especially, with those raging teen hormones. Its learning what is right and what is wrong on a social level but manly condone yourself with someone of age (such as 18) The main thing is, is to follow the laws of your government.

    watch: "the hitch hikers guide to the galaxy"

    learn what a Vogon is and than keep an open mind

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    I am catholic and we believe that when things start to get sexual (i.e. touching breasts, genitals) that is wrong and is against chastity. as for the gay question, technically they are virgins if they have never penetrated a vagina, but again in the eyes of God, any sexual relations before marriage is a sin

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  • 7 years ago

    I count oral sex, anal and anything else as sex, not just penetrative sex.

  • 7 years ago

    If u r a girl no need of qualification. Guys can do everything. Don't worry. But Guys need to know more about sex & pregnancy.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    sex is when the penis enters the vagina anal is gods blind spot

  • 7 years ago

    For me i believe that before marriage people should just hold hands and kiss (peck). No fiddling with anybody's buttons or zips THANK YOU VERY MUCH!

  • 7 years ago

    To me, anytime anyone is doing or having someone do to them an act that is meant to give anyone sexual satisfaction, they're having sex with that person.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    i like putting my penis in my booty hole

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