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Long distance relatioship.?

This guy and I are in our early 40's. We met over a year ago,really hit it off,but we're 1100 miles apart. Theres so much in common and the moment I see he's calling, texting, or is online,my heart skips a beat!!

We've talked about me coming to visit him,but now he's not sure. Last night he asked me if I thought a long distance relationship could work. I was speechless! I told him I hadn't given it much thought. He says he doesn't think it would but we'll talk about it tomorrow(it was already 3am). I can't move to him for at least 3yrs and he's not sure he wants to come back 'home' (he's originally from my area).

I do beleive we could make it work. It worked for my best friend. She's never been happier. I know what works for one,doesn't always work for others.

Just looking for some input on my situation.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I think it can work, as long as you two are willing to put the effort into making it work. My boyfriend and i have been in one for 4 years now, he lives in Germany and i live in US (california). For us age is not an issue its more the maturity of the people. Its definately not easy all the time but its worth it if you really want to be together. It takes a lot of communication, trust and honesty. Webcams would be good for you too that way you can see eachother online, thats always fun. Letters are nice too, they are more personal and its a fun surprise. Its great you have so much in common that way your conversations are always entertaining for the both of you. Sometimes its hard to think of things to say so just be sure to be creative in your topics and keeping in touch. Make sure that you two expect the same thing from the relationship. My boyfriend and i see the distance as a challenge and we know that it won't be forever. Even though it would be 3 years until you or he could move to be together, take it one day at a time. Email me if you have more questions. Good luck :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think that if you two are truly ment to be together then a long distance relationship will work, so I say give it a try and if it doesn't work out then you two wern't ment to be. But that's only what I think you do what ever you want.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    if he's having doubts, they need to be addressed so that you both know where you are coming from, going to and aiming for. if they don't match, you are better not trying cos if you have differences now, the distance will make them seem greater and you will eventually split.

  • honey if he is worth it...then go for it. its working so far for me and my bf. i mean if he means that much to you and you want to be with him...then there isnt anything to think about. nothing is worth having in life if you dont have to fight to keep it.

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