Why do I keep going back to this? HELP!?

To recap:

You are friends with this guy. You love him. He loves your friend. He treats you terribly. He doesn't listen to you. He doesn't trust you. He takes advantage of your feelings for him. He ignores you for a year. You forgive him.

Answer:

Your relationship with him is going exactly nowhere. If he treats you this way when you are supposedly his friend, how do you think he will treat you if you were his girlfriend? You deserve better and you know it. Lose this user and find someone who understands the meaning of loyalty.

I have been there before... If he is still with the girl, it is imperative that you remain his active FRIEND. DO NOT throw out any hints at this time about your feelings for him. Since he is obviously whooped (b/c of his previous actions), he may even be prone to tell his lady about whatever you may say to him (so he comes off looking like the loyal, good boyfriend). In the mean time, keep him in your heart, remain kind (no overkill here), and maybe, just maybe if it's meant to be, there will be an opportunity for you in the future. Whatever you do though, don't ruin it by being impatient no matter how difficult it may be.

one thing .. is he still with that gf? or in a relationship? maybe you need to tell him how you feel .. maybe if you're not comfortable telling him your feelings, you could slowly slip it into conversation and see how he reacts and what not. it would definitely let you know if he's interested and if he's not then you need to move on and concentrate on a another guy because this loving him isn't going to work if its only one way. and if he's already in a relationship .. you shouldn't wreck a relationship. especially if he's your friends' bf .. its a big no. you don't go dating your friends exs and vice versa. its just kind of a code of unwritten law of relationships.

there is little point in getting involved with a fellow who is already engaged to another girl; I think you need to seperate from a love that seemingly has got disconnected from reality.

you otherwise may be damaging yourself and others.

'a love,that does not stand up to reality, is no love!' (a.C)

happy X-mas sends g. from sydney, AU

and, get off what is making you unhappy

there are many shells on the beach!

just waiting to be picked up!

Just be honest and tell him your feelings if he walks away you know he wasnt your friend to begin with....

I can only say what you already know.

Choose.

Let him know you want to be with him or have nothing to do with him.

Let it go, u dont have to defend or explain yourself to anyone, it will only make u fustrated. let him see for himself if he doesn't life goes on!

He's dating your friend. He's off limits.

You are "Really' just mad (for another reason only YOU know) at your girlfriend - Think about "Why" you are mad at her

if he still has a girlfriend then let it go until he is single