Having MAJOR issues - please HELP!?

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Hey,
I've known my best friend for at least ten years and we're extremely close. However, her new boyfriend is someone that I struggle to get along with (due to past issues). Recently, she confronted me, saying that she hates that we don't talk about the situation, but my issue is that she often doesn't want to hear my honest opinion about him because she knows I don't think much of him as a person. What do I do? continue to ignore the situation like "the elephant in the room" or do I tell her what I feel, despite her not liking what she hears? Please help, I really need your advice!

E@rthGoddess · Accepted Answer

This situation is exactly like teaching a child to listen..she may never like the idea of preaching or sermons but since you love ehr and you just want everything to be in good faith so you voice out and speak your mind...................tell her, dont worry after you tell her all what you are feeling, end it with a sentence that because you only care for her and that you are best friends no matter what, give her assurance that you will always be there for her..and if she feels bad towards you, its okay, give her space and time, Im sure she will realize it after all and your friendship will even become better..........ok??cheer up..and good luck!!

Racer · Answer

Yikes... that's a toughie.  If you tell her exactly what you think, then you risk loosing her friendship... she is most likely to side with her b/f.  If you don't tell her exactly how you feel, then you have to keep that bottled up inside you, and "pretend" to get along with the whole situation.  I'm not sure what to tell you sweetie...I guess you have to weigh both questions, and go with the one you're most comfortable with.  Best of luck to you.

Treya · Answer

Just be honest with her and say how you feel. At the end of the day your friends and that counts.

deeliyah20 · Answer

I believe you need to be honest with her . You and her been friends  way to long to not to open up about anything and everything. And if she is truly a friend then she will understand and respect your feelings about it.

nokia N91 · Answer

man i think she love him couz she star like what u said confronted u and even want to be with her bfriend so man ,,try to be cool and and give her time and give her the all help that she need and if u that guy is bad tell her by the facts..good luck.

just me · Answer

be their for her if things go wrong and never say i told you so paste a smile on your face and be civil towards him she knows how you feel about him but she will stick up for him so to avoid problems with your friend mind your own bussiness

Vroom.. · Answer

if it stays in your mind - it will do your head in. you'll go crazy. so just tell her, even if she likes it or not. only then will you know how good of a friend she really is...

HARI S · Answer

Better u tell her about what u feel..about her BF..

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