I'm bored???

You sound very selfish. You need to spice up what you have or get out of it. No one deserves to be cheated on and your children don't deserve a broken family just because you want some sexual gratification. Sounds like you need to work on yourself as a person.

Why not try and engage in a tawdry affair with your husband. Try and get the best of both worlds. Try and get a sitter for a night and send your husband a naughty note inviting him to a motel room. Make sure you sign it so he knows it is from you. Be prepared to experiment with something different. Do some reading and see what you can come up with. A good book is Tracey Cox's "Hot Sex" or any of Tracey Cox's books are good...or try "The complete idiot's guide to amazing sex" for some ideas.

See if you can look at your husband like he is a new person. You could always arrange for him to pick you up at a bar or restaurant and you could have a motel room already booked.

I don't feel rocking the boat and having an affair outside your home is the answer to your boredom. It may be replaced with divorce proceedings which will alleviate your boredom for a while but ultimately will make life very stressful for you and your children.

If you think finding another man is they solution to your boredom then you should sort out your relationship and end it first.

Good luck and I hope you find a solution to your boredom soon!

Hi Mishell,

In my opinion, everyone has a right to be happy BUT without hurting anyone else physically or emotionally.

In case if you want to go out and have some fun.......do it but make sure that you know your limits which will not hurt your family relationships.

If this means an affair then make sure again that it is very clear in your and your guy's head that it is just a temporary thing after which you are back on your way.........this should be done only when you are way too strong to control your actions.........

This is something which should be done as a last step.........before this you can just go alone and enjoy some time driving, trekking etc..........

Do something that pleases you.

I am the same age and could never do that. But it depends on whether you think you have a conscience and that you may regret it one day. You say you are "reasonably happy"-what makes you think you will be happier once you have had an affair with another guy? Use whatever appeal you have left and invest it into your existing partner. You are the maker of your own destiny.

I would suggest joining a class that interests you to keep yourself from being bored rather than having an affair out of boredom! Sounds to me more like your sex life is boring with your husband if you are thinking along the lines of an affair...do something to spice up your life with your husband.

Karma is a "you know what." You say your family is calm and happy, well if you have an affair and it's found out what will that do to your family?

Although it may be fun at first it will get to be a headache after awhile. Imagine 2 needy men in your life.

I say try sky diving or bungee jumping for excitement, less strain on your heart.

Talk with your partner.... having an affair is just going to bring on more stress...If you are bored... check yourself.... this is the problem...having a happy home and children is the most important....you might get out there and find someone that will complicate you life even more... please think about what you are thinking..... you need to get some help before you do something stupid......

if you are ready to get divorced, put your family thru heck, and start your life all over, what you should do is get a divorce and then go use your dwindling sex drive, have fun and live your life. but having an affair will lead to the same place, divorce, unhappyness, etc etc.

What if your husband was thinking of doing the same to you. would it be fair to you if he had a affair? Maybe you should talk to him about it, if he is bored to maybe you should become swingers.

thinking of having an affair with someone else takes a lot of time and some clever planning,your 38 already and chances are if you find someone to have an affair with he wil ljust exploit your situation for his gain and not for your pleasure,there so many ways for you to beat the boredom like taking up classes that might help you in the future,it only takes one mistake to mess-up a family relationship so just suck it up for the sake of your kids

that is a ticky question ,the problem is what happens if your partner finds out then what ?you really think about your actions. i do think that if your not happy maybe just leave him and then find someone else no good will ever come from an affair