How do you not hurt someone you love?

Tell him the truth cause if you don't he will get hurt even more, tell him that you just want to be friends. I know it is going to be hard to do it but don't lie to him be straight up with him cause if you don't you will get hurt to.

I recently had the same thing happen to me about a month ago. I'll tell you what I did, not saying that my answer is the only way, but it worked for me. First of all, I considered my own feelings for that individual...and I found that I only felt friendship for that other person. I am totally in love with the man I'm involved with, and I expressed that. The man, though he was hurt, understood where I was coming from...at first I thought. We tried to remain friends for about a week, but then it turned out that his feelings for me were too strong for him to let me go. All this time, I was telling this man how I felt about my relationship, and he was about to use this information against the man that I love to make himself look better. I felt that he was taking advantage of the situation, and his feelings were getting the best of him....so much so, that he proposition me for something of the physical nature. I then let him know that our relationship had to end because he ultimately crossed a line.

It's hard for a man and a woman to just be friends when one of the friends has feelings for the other. I hate to say it, but it's true. The only thing I can say is that you should be gentle when expressing how you feel, but know that no matter what you say, his feelings will be hurt. If he really values your friendship, he will accept the facts and want you to be happy even if it's not with him.

To not hurt someone you love, you love them. Love doesn't hurt. Tell him the truth & he should understand if he truly loves you & you guys can still be friends, but don't talk to him about u & ur bf bcuz he will feel bad but don't treat him like you feel sorry for him or anything like that. Things can be awkward but it will get better eventually. Be completely honest & do not lead him on. Also, for a while, try not to have too much alone time w/ him .. hang out in groups, but minus ur bf for a while bcuz again, it could make him feel bad, but I don't mean stay away from ur bf, I just mean try not to put it in his face so much.

There is no easy way to tell someone that but be honest and hopefully he will accept that and move on and still remain friends with you. Although I know from personal experience that it's hard for a man to remain friends with a female that he wants to be more than friends with. Best of luck.

There is no easy way of telling him that will not hurt him. Just be true. Hopefully you will hold on to the friendship, but I think it would be best to not see each other for a while. Give him time to realize that if he really cares he will let you be.

Time has a way of healing broken hearts!

ok so i have been in this situation but without a boyfriend and the simple fact is there's nothing you can do its going to heart I'm sorry I'm not of any help but its a ruff situation maybe if you sit down and really talk about it (sooner rather than later)that's all i can think of sorry and good luck

You are in a no win situation. You may have to contend with both of them. Knowing what it means to say that some one is your best friend.

just be honest with him....Say that right now you just love his friendship and you are with someone else and you are happy where you are at and happy with him being your best friend. It is amazing how things change sometimes so never hurt anyone!!!!!! But honesty is the key!!!!

not to be mean about this but he is the one that put himself out there for acceptance or rejection. that has nothing to do with you... what i mean is you shouldnt feel guilty because you dont want to hurt him. if he hadnt confessed he never would have been hurt. especially if he know how happy you are with the one you are with. just be honest and if he gets hurt, its not your fault. good luck..

ok well my boy friend has already said that to me and i know how you feel. its like omg did he just now tell me that? then you start to blush and all that other things. i told my best friend about what happen to me and she helped me like friends should do. so my avise is to say that you don't want to rush into things. that you want to take things slow. or you could just tell your friend and she could talk to him instead of you having to tell him your self. i know your like i don't want to say it back at one point but then again you want to say it back. then you say it to him then your like i should not have said that now what is he going to tell me at school or what eles will he tell me on the phone. just do one of them two things and then you won't feel so scared.

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