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I don't feel like my baby likes me?? (posted in other groups!)?

My son is 1 year old and very outgoing! ALWAYS on the go, especially lately. But, it sometimes feels like he would go with ANYONE with boobs. I still breastfeed and that's the only time he seems to fully NEED me! He only says dada, even though I'M the one who's taking care of him all day (my husband's a pilot, gone for 2-3wks at a time!!!). When my sister or mom come over it's like he doesn't really care if I'm there or not! And when I leave if my husband's home he doesn't protest at all..... I REALLY wanted my baby to be cuddly and loving, but he's not, at least not yet, if he ever will be? He did have a couple weeks a few weeks back, when he'd come up to me and lay his head on me! But, not lately??? He does listen when I ask him to do things, most of the time, so I know he can communicate. But, shouldn't he be saying mama at least by now??? I feel sad, I didn't want a clingy baby, but one that knows I'm his mama!!! Is anyone else in the same boat, or been there before??? Thanks!!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I wouldn't worry. I think it is common. I have a 1 year old and she knows who her daddy is, she says da-da all the time. She still has not said mama even though I have worked with her a lot trying to get her to say it. My daughter is more attached to my mom than anyone else and she only sees her a few days a week. She will scream bloody murder when I take her from her Grandma. I think the reason our children act this way is the fact that we are home with them all day and when our husbands get home (or other family members) our children are just excited to see them. It is something new. Also, I know my daughter is very independent it sounds like your son is the same way. I think that maybe it is a "stage" and I'm sure they will begin showing more affection as they get older. :)

  • 1 decade ago

    Your child is very independent. That is a good thing. All four of my children would go to anyone (especialy if they had boobs). The fact he doesn't pitch a fit when you leaves show he is secure in the fact he knows you are coming back. Three of my childrern said dada first...its the most common word for a child to learn first..only one of mine said mama first. Trust me he knows you love him and he loves you very much he is just a people person. Try getting him to sit in your lap while you read to him to get some cuddle time.

  • 1 decade ago

    Dear mama, don't you worry about it. Kids will know who's the most they can count on. When baby start to crawl/walk, they are very excited/curious and like to experience things, everything seems so interesting to them. You should be thankful that your son is not so attached and he is outgoing which is good for him. You should think positive and teach him how to call "ma ma".

    My sons, both of them calls "da da" first eventhough I'm the one who do most of the job. They are so attive (4 and 2 yr old) and always playful, yet they will still have time where they wanna attach to me, like TV time, or story time, and I do have my special game time (which i create the game myself) with the boys too and they like it very much!. You get what I mean? You can create the atmosphire for them to be attach, and there are also time where they can be on their own, so when they grown little older, easier for them to get around with other kids and be independent.

  • 1 decade ago

    Relax, give him time, its much easier to say dada, than mama, if you are with him all the time, he knows that you are not leaving him for a long time like your mom, sister and his dad.

    It`s just a face, mi 4 year old daughter didn't pay much attention to me when she was 1 year old, now she wants to be arround me all the time.

  • 1 decade ago

    you done a good job in making him feel secure, happy, most of all is time honey he will come around. you with him all the time try taking sometime for yourself like reading a book, a bubble bath. when mine were younger at that age they didn't need me anymore just when i got busy with reading a book, or a bubble bath is when they wanted my attention. i was always there 24/7 just like you. your a good momma. hang in there he'll come around.

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