Incorporating children?

For our wedding we are doing a sand ceremony with the children. Each child, myself and my fiance will have a different color of sand. My fiance will go first then myself, my oldest son, his son, and then my youngest son. We will have a nice container (not sure what yet) designed with the different colors of sand to display in our home that really means something to all of us. It is just a symbol of all of us coming together as one family. It is really important to me that the children are involved as much as possible with the wedding because it just isn't myself and my fiance getting married, it is about all of us marrying each other.

Congratulations to you!

They can & depending on age:

hand out programs, flower girl or bridesmaid (even jr.), ring bearer or usher/groomsmen, can say a verse if you are having scriptures read, walk you or your mother down the aisle, be an honourary maid of honour or honorary best man, give a toast at the reception. You can even have them dance with you or your spouse at the reception & my personal favourite, give them something (like a ring or necklace) after you have exchanged your rings and vows and make it an official family wedding.

Those are just a few & yet they'd feel like they got the biggest part of the marriage.

How old are they? Depending on the ages one can step in as the MOH or BM...or if you don't want to pick one over another maybe just add them to the bridal party as bridesmaids/ushers. Now if they are younger and you want to do something to "join" the familes together...i've seen where the bride and groom have a pice of jewelry for the child and the officiant will say a few words and pronouce you a new family.

Good luck!

How old are they? Maybe you can have them make stuff (like the bird seed bags to pass out) You can ask their opinion on the cake (sounds silly I know) if you do cake tasting take them with and have them help pick out what flavor. Give them a choice of foods to pick from to be catered. You can always have them come up durring the ceremony and give them each a promise ring to show that you both are commeted to them too.

I like and agree with some of the suggestions made in the first answer...get the kids involved by getting their opinions and taking them along on appointments/tastings etc...get their help on what flavours they like,,, what wedding car they like, venue etc....even what colour them they like...you dont have to go with their ideas but opens communication and lets them feel important.......also spend time with them in preparing something they can contribute like some kind of decoration maybe a table decoration...having a small hand made candle decoration or name/table number decoration on the table makes a great focal point for guest and a discussion topic and shows your great loving family unit :-)

You could also have some fun time choosing music selection at home by getting them up dancing and having fun and choosing some songs they like ( and reminding us on how old we are in the music we like lol :-) )

you could also get them to at the ceremony/reception to make their own little speech or sing a song or to introduce the entertainment...maybe when its time for you and hubby to have the first dance get the kids to announce it and then to join in the dancing...or get them to choose a song that they want you and hubby to be dancing too and announce it and let the guest know why they chose that song for you

good luck and may your day go without any hitches ;-)

ok listed below are some ideas .. point out the babies interior the ceremony the babies can stroll forward with the bride... interior the ceremony incorporate the youngster via the Priest (or whoever is directing your ceremony) asking 'Do you settle for this kinfolk and the marriage?" - be careful with this one with the aid of fact now and back babies sense uncomfortable a pair of marriage... Or via pointing out no longer purely are ______ and ______ coming up a marriage as we talk, yet additionally they are forming a kinfolk with (new child/youngster's call). many times, couples provide babies a recent precise whilst they exchange their very own rings and vows - many times a necklace or ring - alongside with a hug and an "i admire you. females : Junior Bridesmaids, Flowergirls, carry the brides bouquet Boys: Ring Bearers, Junior Groomsmen wish it Helped & Goodluck!

flower girl and ring barrow

Jr brides maids and grooms men

have them walk you down

make mention of them during the ceremony

just make sure they fill wanted my daughter helped pick my dress and flowers where my son helped my fiance

good luck