sex is a neccesary evil can u coment on it?

A necessary evil, first I thought. "What are you smoking?". Secondly I thought, "That is very deep" Each relationship is different, for sex to have overtaken love means that there has been a breakdown in communication and respect. Two souls that are meant to be together will find each other regardless of the flesh. Perhaps, a person who could think sex could turn evil is someone who is not getting any. ~ Peace out.

This is a deep questions...so is the answer.

First there are many considerations.

First there is just the act of sex.

From this perspective I think that sex is sex. How does it differ then a back scratch, holding hands, a hug, a kiss or a massage? It doesn't! )Other then to say that it's degree of intimacy is greater.)

In a serious, committed relationship between two individuals sex is a way of expressing that love and in most conventional relationship, including mine, sex is a private matter shared only between the partners. (I have sex with my girl and ONLY my girl. She has sex with me and ONLY me.) Just as I kiss her and only her. I only hold hands with her and she is the only woman I give a massage to. (Let's face it, if a woman were to come home to find her husband kissing another woman or giving her a massage, he would be in serious trouble.)

If I break up with my girl, then when I find a new woman, I will kiss her, hold her hand, giver her massages and have sex with her.

If I ma NOT in a relationship and a female friends of mine wants to have sex, then hey, why not! We are both consenting adults and we both know the score.

Sex is a action that feels good. There is nothing dirty or evil about it. It is enjoyable. To deny oneself or another of the pleasures of sex because of some antiquated notion of impropriety is absurd.

Look at it his way, 200 years ago in the US it was considered unthinkable that a woman would kiss a man deeply (with tongue) unless they were married and alone. And even them many woman would never do such an "unladylike" thing. Just 100 years ago trams and harlots would kiss like this, but civilized woman only kissed their husbands and maybe their fiancées is such a manner. Today there's hardly a girl over the age of 12 that hasn't kissed a boy deeply and by the time a woman is 21 she has probably had quite a few deep encounters. To think of "French kissing" as depraved, disgusting or evil seams silly, yet people did. The same is true of sex. Sex is sex. Kissing is kissing.

That said, because of STD's and the risk of pregnancy, there is certainly more involved in the decision as to whether or not to have sexual relations, but if two mature and responsible adults choose to have sex, that is up to them. IT is not evil and, so long as no one, the man, the woman or any one else is hurt (physically or emotionally[such as some ones wife or husband or child, etc...]) then it's all good!

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There is nothing evil about sex so long as it is done by consentual adults. I argue that people have combined sex with love when it is actually two different things. You don't have to love someone to have sex with them and you don't necessarily have to have sex with someone you love. Sex is a good thing that has been stigmatized by fundamentalist and the media to be a societal ill. Instead, if people would realize sex for what it is (simply sex, nothing more or less) then the world would be a better place in my mind.

in all relationships there is one partner that has a lower drive, and the one with the higher drive has to find ways of coping. i believe that sex is a very important part of any relationship. it isnt everything, but it is important. i find in many cases where the problems come from is more where one partner feels like the other doesnt care. it can go both ways. the one with the lower drive can feel like the only reason the other is with them is for sex. by the same token the one with the higher drive may feel like they arent asking for much, and like their partner isnt trying. combine those and all sorts of problems can happen.

like any problem the solution lies in talking. you have to reach a common ground, and if a couple cannot do that on thier own, that is where a marriage therapist can help if they dont wait too long. there comes a point in any issue where the couple become so divided that their relationship is doomed even with help. i believe many couples wait too long to get help learning how to talk and resolve problems if they can't manage it alone.

Sex is still a beautiful and sacred thing when enjoyed between a man and a woman who truly love each other. Nothing evil or from the outside whole can touch that regardless to how the rest of the world miss use and abuse it.

It should be about love-making not just sex all the time. Express yourself, be honest, and the "evil" sex will be exorcised. Good sex is the expression of true love. When things are so intimate that you cannot separate yourself from your lover, then it will feel as though your souls are intertwined. Hell maybe they actually are! It's hard to see a soul.

I don't know what sex you are having but I'm not having evil sex. In fact it is a special loving way that my boyfriend and I connect to each other. It's certainly not the most important thing in our relationship and many couples who choose to wait until marriage have great relationships without it for years before they indulge.

I agree... there is more to love than sex. Anyone who has love built on more than sex knows this. There is love of souls, and love of family built on the depth and dimension of love that expand when a man and woman create a child together.

A man and a woman who are married and understand that their marraige is not merely a convenience to their material, physical and earthly life, but that it is an improvement to their spiritual life as well, will experience a deeper, more profound, and securer love.

Through the sacrament of marraige a man & woman enter into a commitment with God as well. They not only promise themselves to their spouse but they are promising themselves to God too through their marraige.

If a man & woman understand this and believe in it, then their love is spiritual, and not just physical.

i dun agree with u that sex is evil, it is only evil when u have d evil intention in sex. Sex is d most important part that binds a husband and wife together.

Nonsense. Sex is not evil, nor are "love of souls" and "of bodies" mutually exclusive.

EDIT: Cheri said:

"Two souls that are meant to be together will find each other regardless of the flesh."

That is so true. My fiance and I first met in a game on the internet, and were drawn to each other before we saw each other.