My 2 year old twin keeps hurting her sister, what should I do?

I have twins as well - 2 girls and they both go through this. They will be 3 in February and up until this past summer they both had this phase. They even took it out on other people etc.

When ever one would hit or harm another I would tell them wht they did wrong and then put them in their crib immediately without saying another word - time outs did nothing for us. After a few moments providing they were calm i would go in and get them. I would talk to them for a moment about what they did and then I had them apologize to whom ever they harmed.

It is a phase - believe that however with twins I have noticed that the fighting is more severe and more often. My girls are together 24/7 and sometimes need time apart however they are miserable when they are seperated.

Discipline is key here - do not freak out or hit - hitting them for this offense is a double standard..

If time outs seem to work for you - use that even though they are only 2.., they understand right from wrong. Speak with them after their punishment and ask them to say sorry to the victim. If they cannot speak yet - show them sign language or have them give the victim a hug.

It seems never ending - I know and my girls still have batles here and there between each other as well as with other children - but remember they do not have "their" space since they are twins. I would get tired too!

All the best to you :)

Has she been watching anything violent on t.v.?...If so, you might want to have her watch more age appreciate things...If not, try spending some time with her alone, like drawing and see what she draws and ask her to tell you what the drawing is about. After that explain to her that she should talk out what's bothering her or come tell you when she's upset instead of hitting. Make sure she understands that this behavior is not acceptable and if she does it she will have to go to her room until she calms down. Also, I would keep a close eye on them when they are alone...the other twin maybe provoking her in some way...Good Luck

This might be a phase. Is Simone the oldest child. She might feel that she does not have enough attention towards her. She is hurting others in order for you to focus on her. There is nothing wrong with disciplining her if the hurting increases. Try making 1 on 1 time with her and telling her that she needs to be a helper and get her involved with the other children.

Does she have any speech delays? Aggression is natural in siblings, especially if she is the victim a lot of time. However, if she is not speaking and is having a hard time using her words, she will be frusterated, and begin hitting to show her frustration. I agree that it could also be for attention. Try ignoring her every time she hits, and paying all attention to the victim. Also give her some one on one time with mommy.

Hitting a child as a punishment for hitting is hypocritical, and the child will not get the point that hitting is not okay. I would not recomend it as a punishment for any aggression.

I would try a 2 prong approach. First, if twin B is gentle then every time she is sweet praise the heck outta her. "Oh, that is SOOOO nice. What a good girl. I LOVE it when you are gentle." and so on. When the twin A is mean, walk away. Pick up twin B if she is the victim, state that you are both playing in the kitchen (or whereever) until twin A can be nice. Don't overreact. Remember sometimes negative attention is as good as positive attention especially when you are 2.

We'll when I had my daughter Jamie she used to always pinch then one day I pinched her really hard on her arm and she has never pinched me again. Also get at her level and talk to her because then shes not intimidated when she does something wrong. Watch Super Nanny.

Attention is attention whether its for good or bad behavior in a child's mind. Look for things she is doing right and give her extra attention for being good. What you reward you get more of.

if she pinches scratches and pulls hair... do the same to her ..thats what my doctor told my mother to do and it worked... its not like beating your child its just showing them that it hurts and its wrong.

She's probably jealous of her sister. Make sure you hug and kiss her alot and tell her you love her. It might help to want her to do that to others.

smacking wont help

tell her that u wont talk to her,and don't,i know that it is not easy for a mother to not talk to her children,MOTHERS,my mother is like that

it really works ,she'll come to know that she's doin somethin wrong it always works with my younger bro!

ALL THE BEST!!!!!!!!!!