What is an appropriate dating period before engagement or marriage?

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What is an appropriate dating period before engagement or marriage?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. We have talked about marriage and we get along great! I have finally found a man who is honest, doesn't play me and treats me great! The thing is we are not even engaged yet and I don't want to wait too much longer before we get married...

Here's what I know:

My parents started dating in October, knew they were getting married in December, engaged by May, and married in December. Total time together before marriage: 14 months. Now married for 25 years.

My future in-laws were dating for a year and a half before they got engaged. They were engaged for 3 or 4 years, got pregnant, and got married shortly thereafter. Total time together: 6 years. Now married for 22 years.

Of all the divorced people I know (which is alot!), I haven't seen any pattern regarding living together, time dating, long vs short engagements, or anything. The difference I have seen in people who are still married is that they tend to highly value the commitment they have made to each other.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Two years is a good dating period of time. That's how long I dated my husband before we got engaged and got married. When the time is right, your man should propose to you. It is never good to rush right into marriage if your'e not ready. Let time take it's course. Happy New Year and the best of luck to you!!! If you need a friend, I'm here for you. my e-mail address is midnightwolf99_2000@yahoo.com

My boyfriend and I have been

dating for two years.

*Two years is a very respectable time to get to know someone/each other.

We have talked about marriage

*…an the resulting conclusion was?

…and we get along great!

* If getting along great is the conclusion of

two years of “quality time” with marriage

potential as an objective of consideration on your part …how is all this working out for you …so far after two years?

I have finally found a man who is honest,

* He has been honest for two years now?

Has he found a niche for all of his well intentioned honesty with you during all of this time …His honesty that just goes on and on! The kind of honesty that says he wants to marry you but doesn’t.

doesn't play me and treats me great!

* If being married has been your goal and your claiming to “be happy” …isn’t there something wrong with this picture if you are really wanting to “get married”?

The thing is we are not even engaged yet and I don't want to wait too much longer before we get married

*…I rest my case on this point …on the above …There is, there is really something wrong with your picture because you say the following…“because seems that all the people I know that get married after 3 yrs or longer end up getting divorced.”

* With out more information about the above statement of people getting divorced after only three years, “speaking only for myself”, the only thing I can conclude with is, is that it is “also” you who “may” be having second thoughts about getting “married” in the first place.

Is this just a coincidence or is there something to this?

* Lets say it is both;

1. A coincidence and

2. There is something to it.

Should I really even worry about getting married if things are perfect the way they are now?

* Gee, if you’re comfortable in saying “things are perfect the way they are now? My question now is; how could there possibly be any thing wrong with your picture, at all? …That is if you really like it the way it is?

My conclusion:

Just be happy with the real you; one way or the other. Have confidence that you have two options that you can be happy living with. Some people have few or no options.

Bless you in you decision …make it quick now …you’ve certainly have had some time on your side to do it. :)

Ed

I wouldnt worry about anything at all. I think the 3 year thing of your friends is just a coincidence. You have been marired so you should know that it takes HARD work to have a happy marriage. Enjoy the time that you to have together, married or not, Im sure that you both love each other more than anything.

I am not sure that two years is enough to FULLY decide whether or not marriage is a good idea.

The thing is that most people rush into marriage and they are still in the excitement of a new relationship stage, other than love.

As long as you know you love him, and you wouldn't mind waking up next to him every single day for the rest of your life, then go for it.

But this is one of the hardest choices to make and should take lots of contemplating.

I would first try to move in together, (unless you already have) or discuss this with friends or family and decide how deep your attachment to him is.

Good Luck,

Andreea.

Well there really is no dating period , if you love each other than why not get engaged ? I know ppl who date 6mths and got engaged and married after 1yr and they are still together 15yrs later and very much in love .

I wouldn't stress over the time you have been together let what is right be right. Eventually when you are both ready things happen the way they should. When you start thinking about having kids and houses then it will follow shortly after. But rushing things is what leads to divorce. If you care about each other that is the important thing.

Two years of dating is plenty enough, particularly since you're mature.

But don't believe things are 'perfect' - that would be a red flag....