What is the proper etiquette for a gift that you don't want?

Yes, you can mount them behind your grille so they cannot be seen. Also, if you live in deer country, you really should mount them, not just to save the deer, but have you ever SEEN how much damage that does to your car?

But, anyway... refusing a thoughtful gift is always a tricky proposition. The rule generally is that the gift giver has some responsibility to evaluate the gift prior to giving it. If they give you something that you obviously would not want, then they have, in a small way, failed in their manners, and a mild rebuffment is acceptable.

Seriously, you really, really, really don't want to hit a 300 pound animal at high speed at night. The whistlers do work.

My brother has those.. and by the way, they really do work. If you don't like them just don't put them up. I seriously doubt that the whistlers are going to be on your BIL's mind 24/7 and he's actually going to pay attention to your car. If he asked just say.. you haven't put them up yet. Don't ask to return them, that's the rudest thing ever when someone gives you a gift. It's the thought that counts.. don't hurt his feelings. Best Wishes!

They work.

If your husband doesn't want them on your car, try to compromise and find a place on the car that he'll be willing to mount them on. If that's not possible or you decide that you really don't want to put them on the car, simply put them in your garage. If your BIL asks about them, THEN tell him.

Do NOT "politely" ask him to get you another gift. That would be the height of rudeness.

Put them under the grill who knows maybe you will save the life of a poor unsuspecting deer, after all have you seen the damage to your vehicle after a collision with a deer.

I hope this was helpful.

Tell him you appreciate the thought and the gift--if he looks for them on your vehicle, you will have to tell him the truth. Or you can mount them under the grill where they wont show, and no one gets hurt.

It would be completely rude to say anything to him about not wanting the gift. He took the time to get you something. Don't be rude.

If you honestly KNOW they don't work ask for a receit to exchange them. Then get something else.

hmmmm tough question..... if you tell him they were stolen, he may buy you new ones, if you are honest, he may feel hurt and unappreciated..... you could tell him that a friend of a friend tried them,and she depended on them and she hit a deer anyways and was almost killed, therefore you dont want to jinx yourself

politely ask him if he would mind if you returned them to get something more usable (find better word) for you and your husband.. Either that or lie and say that they got stolen because they were so awesome :-)