Should a married person leave their spouse for a reason such as "I don't love them anymore?"?

First off, a devorce can and will be devastating to children!

I wouldn't say devorce just yet! If in fact you get a long fine and there is no real problems, like abuse! I would try to see what caused the feelings of not loving the spouse any more!

A marriage is a lot of work and also a lot of work to keep the love for one another very deep and alive! You can easily fall in love again with a spouse, if you can rekindle the flames that got you to fall in love to begin with! I don't feel throwing away a marrige should be taken to lightly! All marriages need some kind of a boost now and then to bring the sparks back!

I would say for the childrens sake, try every effort to get the marriage back on track and try to see if maybe a few changes in the marriage could re-ignite the love that love you had when you got married! Many marriage suffer from all sorts of reasons and many feel there at a dead end street in the marriage, but it can also be repaired if you are willing to give it another chance! I think to many people use devorce as a solver for fixing a troubled marriage! When in fact there only running away from the marriage instead of trying or putting any kind of effort to fix it instead! Getting a devorce is the easiest way out, so many take that route!

But it only proves they were a big failure in there marriage, because they ran from the problems instead of fixing the problems! If there's very trouble sum abuse in the marriage, then get help to fix the abuse or call it quits on the marriage so not to harm you or your children, then devorce is the right thing to do!

Just remember what you choose, may have a heavy impact on your childrens happyness and shouldn't be taken lightly when it comes to a devorce! The children are the ones that suffer the most and can hang with them the rest of there lives!

To me, marriage really means the rest of your life! Except for infidelity, abuse, or just plain constant disrespect would I then start to even entertain the idea of divorce. Love is a fickle emotion and peoples feelings surely change over time. Who's to say that in another six months a rekindle in the marriage might take place and emotions flip back. Marriage is a job and people that don't like to work and improve their workplace are short on character to begin with. That's just my opinion of course. If it gets to the point where you can't even look at your mate without thoughts of violence, GET OUT!!! If its a downtime in the relationship and you just aren't getting along. Buck up camper, its not supposed to be easy. As for the kids, It all depends on what type of relationship they will be constantly surrounded by. Bringing kids up in an unhealthy environment will only make them sick. If the couple can still be respectful to each other and the kids and keep a fairly happy family dynamic I would say stick it out. Some of my most unhappy memories as a child is listening to my parents screaming at each other over basically irrelevant issues. So staying together for the kids is not always the best course of action. Everyone wants to be happy ALL the time anymore. This just doesn't even seem right to me. How do you even know when your happy if you never feel sadness or pain. Marriage and life has its ups and downs. Real character is defined when your in the down times and you strive to bring back the up times.

Each situation is different. I stopped loving my husband many years ago, but tried to make it work anyway. We do have two children together. I felt like such a phony trying to pretend I still loved him, and it was just too hard to keep up the pretense. He began getting very angry at me for not loving him anymore, even though I was still nice to him and took care of his needs. First he became verbally abusive, very much so, hours of screaming insults at me, then it became physical. After a broken nose then an open head wound, it was time to leave him.

But if two people are still willing to make it work even when the love is gone, then they should.

For a Christian, this is not the acceptable reason.

In the secular world .. it is one of the major reasons why married person leave a marriage.

Some people walk right out that door even if they do have children .. it just does not matter enough .. they just GO.

It also depends on the person - and the situation.

If you have done everything you can to bring the spark back into your marriage and it isn't working. If you have tried everything you can to work it out and it hasn't. Yes it would be a reason to leave. If you have children, what are you teaching your children by staying in a loveless relationship?

Try being friends. You can both be friends for the sake of the kids can't you? If the spouse doesn't agree, the reason is bull. There's a 3rd party somewhere.

You shouldn't just give up because you both let the love die off. It takes work to keep things how you want them. And saying one day that you don't love them anymore and want to leave isn't fair. Your not taking the time to see if you can't get it back your just bailing for a no good reason.

Translation - I have found a willing partner and l am getting great sex.

Underlying advice for the person left with the kids and all the burdens- be grateful for having the cheating $#@% gone, and make sure your bank account are not cleaned out, and file your divorce papers ASAP, get as much support and liquid assets as possible, move, get a sexually transimited series of tests done, and be sooooooooooooooooo grateful that you have been relieved of this...within two weeks you will suddenly find your children talking about this woman...oops that was hypothetical....okay she would.

If children aren't a result from the marriage, then that should be a good enough reason to leave.

If children are a result, then it becomes more difficult. Think about their lives-- would it be better to stay together for their sake? Maybe, yes. Would it be better to split up? Also maybe.

There could be a good reason for the loss of love - physical abuse, alcohol/drug dependency, infidelity - there's a bigger picture to be looked at.