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Need advice for a friend playing with fire...........?

She has fallen for a tutor in college but he has a gf and she has a bf. Ive told her to forget it as he is a tutor and we all know the rules on students and tutors but she won't listen.I've tried to explain that he could loose his job and she could be kicked off the course. She hasn't said anything to him but I think he has noticed and when he is talking to the class he seems to always direct his gaze at her and at times Ive seen him staring at her when she isn't looking so it looks like he may be interested also. Any advice what I can do or is it a case of sit back and wait for the poo to hit the fan?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    You can try one more thing.

    If the tutor is somewhat young and cool, try talking to him about the situation.

    After that, just sit back and let the poo hit the fan.

    You've done your best and there's nothing more you can do.

  • 1 decade ago

    Part of being a good friend is being there AFTER the poo hits the fan- and it will.

    You've done your part- now be there for her and don't even think about saying "I told you so" she'll know that the minute that things go wrong.

    Then next time, hopefully she will be more willing to trust your advice. You're being a good friend to be concerned- but sometimes people learn best the hard way.

  • 1 decade ago

    Simple way to keep the tutors attention strictly on tutoring would be to go to the head of the college and tell them about it, or you could just idly mention to said tutor that that could happen. if that fails just sit back with plenty of bog roll! lol.

  • 1 decade ago

    I hate to tell u this but your gf is already fallen for this guy.

    and you being the good friend that she needs.

    I know that your just trying to help ? but unless you tell her to

    STOP !!!! then she's just going 2 keep right on with it until

    It blows up in her face or he leaves his gf for her. and

    even if he did ? he still is a tutor. So he's walking on thin ice, but all she has to do is leave her bf for him.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    sounds like shes in to deep already. no matter what your friend does there's a good chance of it being a mess. you've tried to advise her and she hasn't listened. put on a hard hat and wait for the fall out. all you can do for your friend now is offer support her when it goes **** up, which it will. oh and don't say i told you so. not very good. good luck hon

  • dances
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    sounds like you have done your best and you can only sit back now, she obviously wont listen to reason

    hopefully the tutor will have a bit of sense

  • 1 decade ago

    you've done all you can, reminding her that there are consquences, especially if both want to play in the same fire. Stand back and hope it rains, the may just end up burned, instead of on fire.

  • 1 decade ago

    you have been a friend and tried to advise her that's all you can do.they should both know better and if anything goes on between them that's their own faults and will have to deal with the consequences.

  • S
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    They both know what they are doing. You tried to warn them, their actions will have consequences, so stay out of it.

  • 1 decade ago

    You have already tried and explained things to her, so now it's time to let it go where it's going to go.

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