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Strange dream....?

(Background: my husband was away last night at a LAN party with his mates - computer geek thing. It's his birthday today, and I wanted to be able to spend it with him, but LANs go all weekend. Our marriage has had it rough, he had an affair, I've ended up with depression, there've been a few separations, but somehow we're still together...)

I dreamt last night that Ant (hubby) and I were on another 'off', and I decided to get married - to my solo mum girl cousin, Becky. (I'm straight). The wedding was kind of rushed, so I ended up going up the aisle in my underwear. I was pregnant in the dream (as I am now). The whole time all I was thinking about was Ant, never once my new spouse. I wanted him and loved him and wanted to know how he was feeling - I wanted everyone else to go away so I could talk to him alone. I avoided signing the register, because I didn't actually want to marry Becky - I wanted to be with Ant. And all he did was sit there and watch me marry someone else.

Update:

When I woke up I felt really softly towards my husband, I really missed him and wanted to show him how much I loved him. (Lately I've been feeling really tired and fed up with his thoughtlessness and selfishness towards me and our kids - always does whatever he wants, regardless of how it makes us feel.)

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  • 1 decade ago
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    you feel that your husband doesn't really care about you as he was just prepared to sit there and watch you marry someone else (I think that the fact that it was a woman when you are straight says that you really weren't serious about it), but you are obviously still very much in love with him. I think that you need to get him to give a little more - you are pregnant, and that is so tough emotionally and physically. He needs to appreciate that, and also that if the marriage is going to work he is going to have to make some effort. It doesn't sound like he has made that much recently.

  • 1 decade ago

    Bigamy

    To dream that you commit bigamy, suggests that you are having an extremely difficult time with weighing our your options and making a decision between two choices.

    To dream that you marry a bigamist, indicates that you are being deceived by someone in your life. You need to look closely at those who are close to you.

    Lesbian

    To dream that you are a lesbian (but you are not in your waking life), signifies a union with aspects of yourself. It is symbolic of self-love, self-acceptance, and passion. You are comfortable with your sexuality and femininity. If, in your dream you abhor the notion of lesbianism, then it represents your fears and rejection of parts of your own sexuality.

    Source: http://dreammoods.com/cgibin/searchcsv.pl?search=l...

    Personally, I think your dream is really easy to interpret. Your husband is a jackass. He cheated on you. You should get a divorce. The reason you had this dream is because you are wishing you had the type of safe, healthy, wonderful friendship that you have with becky in your current marriage. You wish that your husband would be the kind of companion that becky is. Sounds to me like your husband is a total jackass and you would be better off with someone who loves you.

  • I think that you need to work things out with your husband. You thought about him during the marriage to your cousin. You also seem to remember alot of that dream. That means youre searching for something, and you even search your dreams in hopes of finding Ant. I'm not sure about the underwear though. haha.

    Source(s): I'm a phsychologist that specializes in Gangsta dreams and the phsychoanalysis of post-conscious minds.
  • 1 decade ago

    You need to speak to him hun and tell him what you're feeling. Maybe find out if he's up for counseling. You love him and that much I can tell, but he needs to learn to treat you. He cheated on you once and what he should be doing right now is spending time with you to rebuild the trust that was lost - otherwise you're never going to get the feeling that you might lose him again out of your head.

    Start by talking to him and tell him exactly what you're thinking and exactly how you feel.

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  • 1 decade ago

    sounds like you want your marriage to work out and you love your hubby... so hang in there.... try to remember that feeling and give him some good lovin'.... but keep your eyes and ears open to be sure he isn't cheating... you should never have to put up with that!!!

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