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I certainly sympathize with you hun. My husbands ex is all i can say evil. She had 4 kids to my husband, she had an affair and left him and took the kids. Eventually social services turned up on our doorstep and told us they were removing the kids from her care as she was abusing them. We took them in of course which was a traumatic situation as i had 3 kids also and we lived in a small 3 bed house. This was 6 years ago now and the list is endless on what she has put our family through and accused us of. It even turned out that her second husband was abusing them and she ignored it, he is now in prison for it. Why she has never been sent to a loony bin i'll never know. She has damaged the kids so much and made our job of bringing them up so difficult. I cant tell you all the things shes done as i need a book!! But she is the only person on this planet that i truley hate, and that is a strong word!

I hope things get easier for you hun just hang in there you're doing great xx

Let me ask you, were you in the picture before the divorce? If you were, it may be that issue that is making her act nasty. Either way, she needs to back off. BUT....one thing you can try to do is stay back where her kids are concerned. If you know something will upset her and it isn't something that 'has' to be done, then don't do it. It isn't worth the trouble it will bring from her.

The book for school...was it an assignment book that just had birthdays written in it just because? If so, maybe buy a calendar for the child's room in YOUR house and put the birthdays, etc. on that one.

Best of luck to you. It's not easy, and I am on the other side of the fence. My kids go every other weekend and a month in the summer to their dad's and his girlfriends' house. (They had an affair, thus ending our marriage.) The kids' mom needs to realize that no matter how she feels about you, everything is about those kids now. Her feelings towards you should not be transferred in any way, shape or form to the kids. (((HUGS)))

That is such a difficult situation. And according to statistics it will get worse because traditional family is rapidly being replaced by step family. So when you get evolved with someone that has kids with someone else, or even if does not have kids, but is separated, you are for sure bring more than one person into your relationship.

The pity is, children suffer the most. I really don't know what I would do. What I am doing is holding to my relationship so that my kids don't get into this kind of pain.

I am sorry for you, But I hope you get some help for your kids so they can cope with it in a healthy way.

Sounds like this lady needs to grow up. The children are innocent in this and do NOT need to be subjected to all this nonsense. What is your husband saying about all of this? He should be the one to put a stop to all the stuff that is going on. He could if he wanted too...you know that ..right? Maybe he likes the attention you and she are creating around him. But leave the kids out of it all.

Oh, I could go on and on.

Just watch out for something called" parental alienation syndrome", where the ex tries to turn the kids against you or your spouse.

Lots of exes try to turn the kids away from the kids' new step-parent, not realizing that it is detrimental to encourage a child to disrespect ANY member of their respective parents' new families.

i WISH YOU THE ABSOLUTE BEST OF LUCK, BECAUSE, WELL, YOU'RE GOING TO NEED IT.

It is such a shame that EXs can't get along or get along with the new spouses. My ex is remarried and they have a child together. Believe it or not we visit each other, their child call me auntie, I dog-sit when they're on vacation, both of them came over to help me put down my new floor.

Meet her, get to know her, make peace with her. You're the reasonable one right.

Glad to say that I have no problems with my husband's ex...she such a mousy timid woman...I have an ex and only communicate with him when I have to talk with him when it concerns our children....I think people who use their children to get back at ex's or their ex's new partner are immature, lack integrity and are thoughtless...

Stay out of their problems.

They're not your kids ,it's theirs.

Well you knew what you were getting into before you got married to him,didn't you?

no but she needs to not involve your kids because they are not involved, your husband needs to step in and put her in her place!