post partum depression?

Hi

The first thing you need to do is talk to your doctor or midwife about how you are feeling. The "traditional" baby blues only lasts for a maximum of a week just after your milk comes in. I had post natal depression for nearly 3 years after the birth of my child and it sounds as though you are feeling the same as I did. There are a few ways to start combating it alone. Exercise is great as it releases endorphins and makes you feel a bit happier. Of course, finding the time to exercise can be a problem with a young baby! You could also look at placing her in child care even for a couple of hours one day a week to make sure you get time to yourself. If you haven't already, join a playgroup or parent's group to give you time with other people who have children the same age. Just talking to them can make a difference. Most importantly, remember that you're not alone. Lot's of women feel like this, but it's so easy to feel that you're the only one and that no one understands (even though, logically, you know you're not!). Unfortunately, post natal depression is still fairly stigmatised within the community - everyone expects that mums just cope and deal with things. This is NOT helpful. Talk to someone qualified. They can assess you and help you get through it. You will be amazed at how much better just talking to someone who understands will make you feel.

Good luck!

I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.

Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.

Depression Free Method?

There are three diagnosis postnatally that can, and do, happen to many women, related to depression.

First is postpartum blues (or baby blues). This tends to last a short time imediately following the birth of a child while your hormones are reregulating themselves. Most women experience this to some degree and it is natural.

Second is postpartum depression. This usually occurs within the first year of the birth of a child, and you should seek help from your physician.

The third, which is rare, is called postpartum psychosis. This can be exceptionally dangerous, and often includes the urge to harm the baby. This requires imediate help.

Experiencing any of these is NOT YOUR FAULT. It is a result of chemical imbalances, and it is treatable. However, in order to get treatment, you need to see your doctor and be honest about your experiences. Many places have agencies or treatment professionals who deal specifically with the second of these two issues.

I recommend strongly that you seek help, for your sake and for the sake of your child.

None of these conditions mean you don't love your baby or that you are not a good mom. But to be the best mom you can, you have to take care of yourself so that you are able to take care of your baby. you owe it to both of you to get help.

Yes, it sounds to me as though you have post partum depression. I can not say how severe it is, but I would definitely see my OB/GYN if I had the same symptoms you describe. Especially the harming feelings. Get to your physician and disregard what your husband says.

No this is not OK and its not 'normal'. I suffered from terrible postnatal depression after one of mine. When it has gone on this long you need help. Please go and see your doctor and get help.