Should I expose the lies.....?

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I have a friend that has entered into our local Women in Transition program under false pretenses. She or her children have ever been physically or sexually abused.  Apparently she has been planning on divorcing her husband for some time and is hiding in the system in order to cover up the fact that she hasn't  paid the mortgage, any of the utilities, or any of the credit card payments in over 4 months.  She basically is trying to screw over her husband and make him out to be the bad guy and leave him without a house.  

I had no clue she was going to do this.
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Do I notifiy Women in Transition that they are being lied to and used?  She has also lied to her parents, her kids, their schools, and to us, the members of her small group from church.  She has brainwashed the kids into believing that their dad is someone to be feared.  She has taken out over 15 credit cards, maxed them out, and never intended on paying them.  She refuses to talk to any of us.

Do I let WIT know?

oceans1197 · Accepted Answer

If you are SURE that this is taking place (and not just from nebulous gossip sources), gather whatever evidence of this you can and submit it to WIT. A lying spendaholic is taking up the space of someone who could genuinely need assistance. Reporting what you know is really the only way you will be able to sleep at night.

India · Answer

She definitely needs help of some kind. Let WIT know so that space can be taken by a woman truly in need. As for the rest...Can your pastor/reverend/priest talk to her about all the damage she is doing to her children? The bills will come back at her with a bad credit score. Fraud is illegal. And we all heard about the boy who cried wolf. Talk to the head of your church and wash your hands of her. I feel sorry for the kids.

Dan · Answer

Man if you have proof of this you must inform the husband and the authorities.

This is illegal and willful malice upon an individual.

This also shows clearly she is not of the sane mentality to raise a child.

She is not only a danger to herself but those around her and needs to be medically treated, or incarcerated

Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) · Answer

If you have proof that she is defrauding the system, I would say something.  Because by using the resources of WIT in a fradulent manner, she takes away the ability to help someone who REALLY needs it.

JigsawJones · Answer

Yes, but make ABSOLUTELY sure she's lying.  It'd be sad to kick her out and then she has to go back to someone who really is abusive.  Also, have proof.  You don't want to seem like a complete *****.

punished girl · Answer

YES, you must say the truth or the guilt will hunt you forever. And the sooner the better before she keeps hurting everyone.

Anonymous · Answer

That is a definate yes, especially if he is a good father. what kind of dog do you have? An Aussie?

Jen S · Answer

She's ruining other people's lives over this so do it. Just make sure to stay anonymous.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, they need to know.  The program will know best how to handle this.

Ariana · Answer

I think you should make sure shes lying and if she is let them know that shes using them.

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