having an orgasm?

Try getting on top. If you can do it when you masturbate? Then try it with your Fiancé.

Sounds like more foreplay is needed.... is what leads to up to the main show that helps a lot ....i believe you are female because not too many men have a problem w/ orgasm but erections.... join w/ playing w/ u doing the main show and i promise instant results.. you sound like the shy type that thinks that it will be odd to do that but it helps

Most women do not have orgasms through sexual intercourse. It require direct manual or oral stimulation to your clitoris. You can research G-spot and experiment. Sometimes if the woman is on top and more in control of the movements, it can help achieve an orgasm.

I guess the biggest question is do you orgasm while taking the matter into your own hands.

If so, perhaps your partner can watch and see what works.

there are websites that are not porn that could help you and do not take this the wrong way but you know your body better than your spouse practice til you find your spot and guide him to it and work it from there

There are plenty of things you can try that they don't tell you in books.

Well knowing if you were male or female would help...