my 13 yo daughter gave out her cell number online for the 4th time. What should her punishement be? How Long?

I am 13 and I have a cell phone peoples! I use it in emergency cases tho. anyways... you should have done something serious about it the 1st time, latest 2nd. if her computer is in her room, rip it out. if not, put a serious lock on it allowing her to access only the sites such as google, and other sites use to do hw and research. block out myspace yahoo, and any other place she has an account on. delete her account on which she gave her number. and change the cell # just to be safe. make sure she gets no friends, bcause she could always go on their computer or the schools. no allowance, and no shopping. ban everything she loves. anything coming up, cancel it. show her who's boss, she'll learn her lesson, trust me. i suggest a minimum of 2 months punishment. 1 month for every 2 times she disobeyed you.

Since this is the forth time you need to take away her cell phone privileges to start with. The only time she needs to use her cell phone is when she has to call you or it is an emergency. Then you need to take away her computer privileges. The only time that she needs to get on-line is when she has to do a school assignment that requires the computer. You also need to ground her from going anywhere with her friends for two weeks or so. Your just going to have to show her that you are being serious, and you mean what you say.

What do you mean by online? I think it's okay to send it to a friend over an instant messaging program. If she gives it out in a public forum, I would agree that's unsafe.

Good for you for your efforts in showing her the dangers of the internet. Many parents punish their children without explaining why.. so I think you're heading in the right direction. Some of those predator shows may seem very detached from her situation though.

I would explain how a stalker or predator could use her cellphone number to harass her and even find your address. Explain that it puts her AND her family in danger and how awful it would be for you and your family if anything happened to her. If she still does it, you could take away her cellphone.

You could easily scare her out of this. Get a friend to pose as someone she has talked to on the internet....and has come to see her unannounced. Or she could get a call from the police station stating that one of her "internet buddies" is there and they gave the police her name and number. Have them call on her cellphone.

If you dont want to do this, I think its time to remove both the cellphone and computer.....completely. She needs to understand that these are privileges and that you CAN AND WILL take them away when abused. If she wants her phone back, then make it to where she has to purchase minutes for her phone with her own money. Once she has to work for them, then maybe she will be a little more resistent to spending them on the phone with a complete stranger. If she really has to do research, take her to the library or make her find some other form of internet access. Signing up for a library card costs nothing and most libraries have access restrictions to certain sites. Have the police talk to her or putting her face to face with someone convicted of molestation (in the appropriate setting, of course!) and having them talk to her about what she is in for...if she keeps on.

Maybe you should take away her computer completely. Get rid of her internet at least. Take her cell phone away. These are priviledges, not rights. She needs to understand that. Since she is only 13, she will not get the full implications of the danger she is putting herself in. It would be awful for her to learn the tragic way. She can live without these things until she is mature enough to understand the kind of responsibility it takes to be able to have them. Good luck, no matter what you do it will be quite an undertaking and alot of fighting.

Take away her phone and computer! She has done this four times already! The three strikes, your out shouldn't even apply here! She is going to get herself into some trouble if you don't do something! I would let her take her phone when you need to get a hold of her and that's it! I don't know how long.... but at least two or three months! If you just take them away for a short period of time, she will never learn her lesson! What a scary situation!!!

Take her to your local police ask if you could have an officer talk to her. Sometimes if you take her to a probation Department and have them talk to her sometimes that will help. I have worked with sex offenders for 9 years now and my children won't even stay the night at their friends house. They don't even ask. Sometimes taking the cell phone is not going to work they will find a way to call or something. Best cure for curiosity is education.

Take away her cell phone and lock up the computer. She'd only be allowed onlinie with supervision (meaning you sitting right there) to do HOMEWORK only (if need be).

You might consider some counseling if she's getting hard to handle.

im a teen and im sorry to say

this but

you need to take her phone away

&& the computer. If she has a myspace delete it.

if she says she needs to use the comp.

for "educational reasons"

theres a software you can get

that only allows you to use certain things

and will restrict others

i.e: it'll let u use google

but you cant go on myspace

or chat sites, or send email etc...

If I were her mother, the cell phone would have been taken away after the very first time. You need to take it away. Why does she have one in the first place? She's 13!!!