does the death of a parent ever get easier?

I know it must hurt. I know a girl whose mom passed back in 96 and they were very close, I was so shocked to see her laughing and apparently having a good time at the house when we went over to pay our respects. She carried on like this for several months until she finally broke down and seriously ended up in the psychiatric unit at the hospital. She went to see a counselor weekly after that and she told her that she was repressing her feelings and that was not good, so in short, it is good that you are letting it out. Time heals everything, it will get easier. God Bless You!

First of all, I am so sorry to hear that your mom has passed away. I'm sure you two were very close.

I am the only child and I am very close with my mom. If anything ever happened to her, I would just break. I don't think I can even live without my mom, so if I were in your shoes, I would be exactly like you. I would probably cry more, because sometimes I think....one day I won't have her by my side, and then tears start rolling down. So just thinking about it makes my heart ache. But death is part of life. And I'm sorry to hear you lost your mom through stomach cancer. My uncle battled stomach cancer for a year and then he passed away. It was very hard on the family.

Don't worry, time will make the pain go away. You said that sometimes the tears would stop but then you think about it agian and it makes you cry. Time definitely will heal the pain. Just take it slow. Be glad that you can wake up and have the ability to smile and laugh. Your mom would want you to be happy in life. She would not want you to be depressed in life. She would want you to continue doing what you are doing regardless if she is here or not. She would want the best for you. So, think about the good memories with her. Think about all the good times you two shared with each other and with your family and friends.

Let time heal your pain but remember that it takes a lot of time. When my grandpa passed away, it took me about two years to truly get over it. I was so down for a long time, and sometimes when I think about it, it makes me cry. So it's normal. It just shows them how much you lvoed them and miss them. Your mom is probably smiling down on you right now. Don't worry doll, you will be fine. I understand your pain.

Oh honey, I so feel your pain!!! I lost my mom 5 years ago and my dad died almost 2 years ago. What you are feeling right now is very common in the stage of grief you are in. I am so glad you are finding comfort in family and friends as that is what you need to do. I hate to say that it gets easier, I guess maybe it does, it just turns into a different feeling as time goes on. I miss my mom and dad. There are times when I want to pick up the phone and call them. My heart aches a little less but some days are better than others. She is still with you. You are a part of her that goes on. You have memories, the touch of the breeze on your check can feel like a kiss from her. This year for Christmas I bought a little girls toy and a boys toy and gave it to a charity to give to a child from my parents. It made me feel a little better. There are support groups out there and if you feel you need additional support, maybe you can google the ones in your area. Please take good care of yourself.

I'm sooo sorry about your loss. What your feeling is normal and I went through the same thing when I loss my father. I felt like I was in a bad dream that I couldn't wake up from. I would sit there in a daze and then start crying out of no where, when I would snap back and realise he wasn't coming back and he was actually gone. Time helps the pain and what always helped me is to remember the good times you had with them. Someone once told me like this, with being born comes death and that's why you should cherish every moment with your family cause tomorrow is not promised to any of us. I'm glad your family is close, you will be able to give each other strength, when you might feel you have none. You loved your mom and miss her terribly, but remember she is a part of you, as you are her child. Never forget that and tried to remember all the great times you had with her, even when you feel like you can't go on. It is normal what you feel, but for me time really helped and never letting their memory go. God bless you and I pray for God to give you the strength to cope with her pain.

im in my 20s also and ive lost 6 people in the last 3 years. my grandmother a couple uncles a cousin that was miscarried and a good friend and a cousin that was 47 at the age of his death. I understand that you felt numb and are upset right now. and you will always remember her. the best thing you can do is remember all the good times you had together. and try to belive that you will see he again someday in heaven. it does ease a bit over time but it will always hurt. you have to come to a point of acceptance that she is gone and i know it is hard but you have to. my sympothy to you for your mothers passing. but think of it this way she isnt in any pain anymore and if you bielive in heaven she is there smiling down on you. but yes over time it eases up little by little and 20 years from now you may be thinking of it and start crying like it happened yesterday this is normal. if you need help coping or need someone to talk to feel free to email me at any time at kitty45342@yahoo.com

my sympothy to you again iam sorry for your mother passing remember the good not the bad and remember that she loved you always. and never forget those wonderful memories

Im so sorry for your loss. The grieving process has no particular time span and is different for everybody. Of course you still think about your mum, its only 9 months since she passed. The grieving process is complex and has many stages, and sometimes, when you start to feel a little better, the next day you seem to be back to square one...this is all normal and will ease in time. Give it time, remember your mum in happier times, and know that she is still with you in spirit. I wish you well.

Completely normal. Everyone grieves differently and at different lengths. Keep talking to your friends and family and try to focus on the good memories of your mum, the ones that make you smile, things will get easier as times goes by. Just remember that she would have also wanted you to live a full and happy life and not spend too much time crying. Try and do your best to live for her because she can't. But there is no time frame on these things... just let yourself heal in your own time.

"They" do say it gets easier, the first year or two are the hardest. I lost a loved one 6 months ago and sometimes I feel really miserable and I think about him several times a day, but I feel I must stay strong for the rest of my family, so I do things to keep me occupied. Regular soothing exercise, such as swimming, yoga or taking walks can help. So can talking to a therapist or a friend who has also experienced loss or is very understanding of your pain.

You will get through this, but everyone grieves at their own pace and don't feel abnormal that you still miss your mom. I suspect that you will always miss her, but also that it will get easier in time.

Sorry for your loss,

What you're going through is usual, especial when losing someone as precious as a mother. But time heals and you should try to remember all the good times you both spent together and that should give you some relieve. I also recommend making some sort of slide-show from her photos and having her favorite songs play in the background. Watch it every time you think of her and I'm sure that will help a lot.

Yes and no ! I am sorry for your loss and know that nothing anyone says will help you.

(I lost my Dad to cancer after a 4 week hospitalisation dying period, when I was in my late 20's.)

It will get easier to accept that your mum is gone, but it wont get easier to not miss her. Surround yourself with true friends, ones who will let you get on with life and allow you quiet times to grieve while not reminding you of her passing at other times.And keep busy yourself with things you like doing - you know your mum would want you to be happy. My Dad has been gone now 20 years, and I still feel the loss and am saddened by it - a very selfish emotion. But I accept it.

All the best and as my Dad 's sister said "remember him as he was and enjoy those memories.".