Baby Mama Drama can any1 help a sister out?

Let it go..he is with you and must not want her. She needs someone to talk to and it is good they are able to communicate after there relationship. Maybe be a friend as well and lend an ear so she will lean on you rather than him.

Sorry, but when there is a kid involved, there are certain things that men THINK they have to do, like be there for the baby mama (it's a guilt thing for men, and it sounds like she's milking it for everything she can).

What I did was answer the phone whenever she would call. When she'd ask for my husband, I'd say, "Oh, I'm sorry, he's not available right now, but I'll let him know you called. Do you have a message?" (she always said no), then I'd say, "Okay, have a blessed day!" and hang up.

As far as her calling him to discuss her problems, HE needs to tell her that he's not interested in them, and the only thing he wants to discuss with her is the kid. Period. If he's unwilling to do that...then the problem is HIM, and believe me, you won't be able to change that.

It's one thing to remain friends with your baby's mama; it's a completely different matter when you're her confidant. Not a good thing at all.

Oh, and don't be her friend. Maybe you can be cordial with each other in the future, for the sake of the kid (it happened with us after about 5 years), but the minute you become a friend with your man's ex, you've crossed the line, and she'll be playing her games with you. Don't do it.

In my opinion, I think that there are boundaries to be set. If you bf doesn't start making them then she will never know that she has to start respecting them. It's almost like disciplining a child, you have to be consistent or you will never get any results. She won't respect you and your relationship until he starts putting his foot down. Of course, she would of wanted to be with your bf and maybe still hopes to in the future. Most women hope to meet someone, fall in love, have children and live happily ever after. Though it doesn't always happen that way, some women/baby mamas always want to believe that they will always have that chance. Until your bf starts to show her there will never be anything between them other than their child then she will not be able to face reality.

You need to tell him that it bothers you! Is she being a pain to you just because she calls? Or is she doing other things?

Let him know and let him handle it. If he does nothing then you should re.think getting married.

Maybe she just needs someone to talk to and doesn't have anyone close that she could share her problems with. If she's not trying to get back with him she shouldn't be a threat to you. And if she is not being disrespectful then maybe you should try to talk to her and have a friendship.

:)

Hope it works out

You can't be a friend to her. She doesn't want a friend. She wants her man back. He's not interested, so she's going to try to cause as much trouble with you all as she can. Ignore her. Allow her repeated requests for attention from her ex-boyfriend to fall on deaf ears. She needs to just get lost and leave you guys alone.

Talk to your man and find out if he wants her to call and if not ask her to stop calling, and tell her that you guys have enough faith in her to get the kid to school with out all the drama of daily phone call. As for her calling with relationship issues, just tell her that you guys are not interested in her problems.

Actually, there is nothing you can do. This is his situation and he has to put a stop on it. Obviously, there are still feelings between the two, maybe you need to sit down and talk to him about it.

Try becoming her friend. It sounds like she has a somewhat unstable life and is trying to cling to anything around her.

If he allows it to continue, I would rethink the marriage idea. It will probably get worse.