i want to ask is sex before marriage ok??? y or y not?

Iy depends on your personal beliefs. I, myself, and open minded and realize that it just doesn't work for everyone. It works for some people, but not the vast majority. And no one has a right to force their opinion of the matter onto anyone else.

Besides, haven't you heard the phrase "try it before you buy it"?

It depends. A lot of religions promote abstinence and I think that is great I just wish that they promoted sex ed too.

Ideally I'd like to know that everyone I know has waited for marriage because it saves the risk of it all (STD's and un-wed pregnancy) and it saves heart break. Although mainly I just wish people would wait for "the one", I'm not saying you have to be married but just wait for that person because he or she is out there. I waited, no I'm not married but I waited for the man I'm gonna marry (we've been engaged for almost a year now) and he waited for me. He's the older of the two of us, he was 23 and a virgin. It's not THAT hard. At least it's not as hard as people make it out to be.

Do I think sex before marriage is wrong? Yes and no. Yes because you should keep your numbers low and not lose your virginity "just cause", because once you do you'll never get it back and that is a HUGE thing. Men and women just shouldn't have casual sex or hook ups at that point you've become nothing better then a common street walker (that goes for both sexes). Just have morals and values. No because well I've already listed that above.

And I don't think that anyone that is 11,12,13,14, or even 15 should be having sex. Hopefully by 16 you've learned all about birth control. But I've noticed that by being on Answers that most of the pregnant girls are 15 and below. It's sad really because they miss out on something although what they get in return is a beautiful thing.

Just wait for the right person. Everyone I know did and while their relationships might not be perfect they're still together after years and years.

Good luck.

Chances are you won't convince them - they have probably held these views for a long time and are unlikely to suddenly change their minds. What I find strange is that you want their blessing. Surely your personal life is your own business. You are 19, you are an adult! Perhaps wait until you are at Uni and decide what you want to do and whether you truly need your parents "permission" - I don't know anyone else who asked their parents first before losing their virginity, I didn't! And tell your boyfriend that he should not be discussing your sex life with anyone - let alone your brother! And ignore others about slipping up - if you are sensible and use protection there is no reason why you should not have sex - it is not dirty or wrong, and if you are not religious it is your choice if you want to do it now. Other people are fine to have their views and beliefs, and you are too.

There are many different opinions on this - and many different reasons.

Personally I think it depends on the individual, and the individuals involved. Sex before marriage is just fine - when it's between 2 individuals who are above the age of consent - and who both want to. I would add another clause onto that - that they should be in a loving and monogamous relationship - but I'm fully aware that not everyone sees it like that. I'm not out to push my own views down other people's throats.

I think it's wrong to link the view that sex before marriage is wrong to Christians - I am a Christian myself, and as I've just said, I don't subscribe to that view. Equally, I've met people who are atheists and who still don't believe in sex before marriage. I appreciate that some people will tell me that a) I am not a true Christian and b) I will go to hell for this.

I think sex is a private, personal matter, I think you should stick to your own views and as long as it's legal and consensual, what's the problem. You have to work out your own views regarding the subject, and not let anyone else tell you what to do.

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OF COURSE you know that it all is up to you to decide what is right..

I know two things..

1. I had sex at 15 (I am a male) and in my opinion I was too young to either A. put up with the emotional baggage of it or B. pick the right partner. I have had years of problem based on that..

2. I had sex before marriage with my wife of 12 years and feel pretty ok with it.. We were engaged before we did it though.

I feel like that you should wait until you are ready to spend your LIFE with that person before you have sex which is more about finding the right very-long-term partner than waiting until the license is signed.

That being said, I do wish I could tell my daughter someday that I had waited until I was married but, due to the mistake before my wife, I will be a very good example of why it is important to be sure that you are BOTH truely commited to each other.

In my opinion its a bad thing to have sex before marriage.

There is a right time to enjoy that special feeling, that feeling which is the most special gift from god.

when your mind and body is ready for that you can go for it.I asked many people about pre-marriage sex.

Those who had sex before marriage said "I think i should not have done that".

And those who dint have sex before marriage answered "i should have tried that...."

Sex is just one way of expressing our love for each other.

dont consider sex as the only way of expressing your love.

It could be a kiss, a hug or even a good smile with love.....

Everyone can go for sex before marriage if we want.

but a few people have the power to control their feelings and have sex at right time with right person.

Well i respect these people........

gool luck

I'm a Catholic and I think this:

Sex is okay before marriage if you truly love that person.

I mean, it's great to wait til' marriage, but let's be reasonable. Not everyone gets married until they're 35 sometimes. I think that you also have to be ready to have a baby because something can always go wrong. So this is just my opinion...

um, you're 16! if you're old enough to have sex you could be old enough to be a parent, remember that! It's not fair to your baby if you don't really even love their Dad and just did it with some random guy. I waited until I was married even though I had plenty of opportunites to blow it. When you make love to someone that person keeps a little piece of you forever. It's kinda like a candy bar. Why would anyone want a candy bar that's bitten into. I'd rather have a new one that I could enjoy. Don't sell yourself short just because everyone else is doing it. It's not worth the trouble and hurt it causes in the end.

In a perfect world I believe you should wait for marriage before you have sex, but we don't live in a perfect world. That being said, the only regret I have in life is not waiting until I was married to have sex.

I read this quote once:

The assumption...that people are going to have sex because they can't help themselves...is presented as freedom and honesty and just being who you are and doing what comes naturally, but it's built on the belief that certain things are inevitable. What it really teaches is that people cannot transcend the physical dimensions of their existence, It views people much like animals. And so many live with a low-grade sense of despair, thinking that they're helpless, that this is simply how it is...The criticism of the "sex is for marriage" view is usually presented as the voice of realism. Are people actually capable of restraint? But it's not realism. It's the voice of despair. It's the voice that asks, "Aren't we all really just animals?"

There's no harm in waiting, it shows respect for both yourself and your partner.

I'm Filipino and Catholic and we believe that sex before marriage is not good and should be done after marriage. But if your a different religion then its OK. But its really your choice.