My sweetheart died suddenly, she has been cremated--now the family intends to divide her amongst themselves.?

I don't know if this is proper or not, but if it is what the family is comfortable with, then I would say it would be okay. My husband's grandma died and was cremated and she always said she didn't want to be buried alone so they are waiting on my mother-in-law or my sister-in-law to pass and be cremated so grandma can be buried with someone else. In the meantime, they keep her ashes in the top of a spare room closet, which to me makes no sense, but it's what they are comfortable doing.

Sorry to hear that. I've lost quite a number of people suddenly & I know how hard that can be. Of my experiences, the people were always buried, not cremated. But I have heard of situations like yours. At this point in time I guess what is important is those left living and what is best for them. If they are not considering your feelings ... well, I'd make them known, & leave it at that. If you were not married, then you'll have to honor their choice. You'll always carry the love you had for her in your heart.... that's more important anyhow. Best Wishes.

Hi,

May her soul rest in peace.

After the death of a family member, many families tend to hold on to the clothes used by the person or even the ashes of the person cremated.

Holding on to this will never bring her back. But it could help those deal with the grief. Hence, in this case, unless you wish to keep her ashes for yourself, i think you could be generous to her family and make them happy by letting them do what they wish to do.

Your sweet heart could thank you from heaven for taking care of the feelings of her family even after she is dead and gone!