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Oros asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

A situation re B & Z, what is your opinion?

I found out my friend Z had a friend B, i approached B because I was/am interested in B's work, plus B has the same interest as Z and me.

I didn't tell Z that I had made friends with B, and didn't tell B that I knew Z.

I didn't want B asking questions about Z and I also didn't want B to tell me about Z.

If B had mentioned Z I would have told B i knew Z, but Z never came up in our conversations.

B asked me to go on holiday which B was planning, no dates as yet were booked, so I couldn't give a definate answer, but B was insistant i were to go.

B also told me there was another person going, although didn't tell me the name, just that they had the same interest as us.

B wanted to introduce me to this 'other person' via internet chat, it turned out to be Z, when I found out it was Z, i said I had to go and shut the conversation down.

B is now no longer my friend and Z says B is no longer Z's friend, so Z has now said that trust in me has slipped.

Update:

If you are mildly confused by this 'question', please see my other recent question I added earlier.

Update 2:

Z made friends with B knowing that I would be 'upset', yet didn't tell me.

Update 3:

I would also like to point out that Z never said to me 'Don't make friends with B'.

(this will make sense if you read the other question re trust).

Update 4:

I would also like to point out that i had a website which mentioned Z's name, yet he told me to take his name off because he said he didn't want his name having anything to do with me.

Update 5:

Also, I have admitted that what i did was wrong, but Z has not admitted that what Z did was wrong too.

I have too much feeling for Z to 'lose' the friendship we have/had, which i know is retrievable,

If only Z would realise that what Z did was wrong (see previous question).

thank you to all of you who have responded, it's appreciated.

Update 6:

i have emailed B requesting renewed friendship with Z, and asked Z to continue friends with me.

I have also asked B to recommend any other people that is as good at their job as B.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    It's not that confusing. You should have been upfront about B and Z and then there wouldn't be a problem and you may all be together at least as friends. Honesty is the best policy! If you all had the same interests, it seems to me you would have discussed it at some point. Sorry the trust is gone but you should have been honest. Maybe there is still a chance to rectify this. I don't know why you kept this to yourself. Live and learn.

  • kenneltech
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I don't understand why you were so secretive. Why couldn't you all have just been friends! What was B's work, why the big secrets? You did this to yourself.

  • Amir K
    1 decade ago

    i know what you are saying but i dont know what you want to know. so if u could mail me what u want to know i would try to answer it

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