Should a Husband and wife have separate bedrooms?

I've heard of couples having seperate bedrooms when one snores really loud which effects the sleep of the other partner...is that what is going on here or did she just decide she wants her own bed to sleep in? There are King size beds too if she doesn't want you to sleep too close!

I think it's good to have your own space, somewhere that you can decorate purely to your own taste and fill with your hobby stuff that your spouse might not be interested in. Sleeping separately, though? Hmmm. I think I'd miss my partner. If you're horrible to sleep with (perhaps there are occasional nights when you move about a lot, snore loudly and/or flail your arms about and punch her on the nose while you're asleep), it might be worth having a spare room she can escape to for a good night's sleep.

Try to find out a bit more. Is it something you do while you're asleep that disturbs her? Perhaps you have a bigger libido than her or perhaps she likes to keep sleep and sex completely separate? Or does she simple want to paint a whole room pink and have pot dolls on a shelf? If you hate the idea of separate bedrooms, she needs to know and then you can find a way to address her needs in a different way.

It depends on the couple and what is best for them, so it is hard to say. Having separate bedrooms could decrease intimacy, which would be bad for a relationship, but I suppose it could lead to a longing for each other as well. There are also times it might be better for sleeping, where one person in the couple snores or one goes to bed later than the other and would otherwise wake them up. So it's hard to say one way or another in general--it depends entirely on the couple.

I have a friend that has this arrangement and they seem happy, she snores and he is a light sleeper. Personally I couldn't imagine how it could be good for a marriage. If you don't immediatly go to sleep then you usually talk about your day a little you discuss issues that need to be discussed and you have access which can inspire romance just being close to each other. I think it all boils down to personal choice but I believe marriage is about joining together not seperating.

Do what works for you and your spouse. My wife can't stand when I sleep on the couch, but more often than not...I end up crawling up to bed around 3:00 am. Personally, I think it is somewhat important to share that time together. Many bonding moments with my wife have come from snuggling and communicating at the end of the day. I am working hard on adjusting my schedule so I can get that time back.

I seen a segment on TV about this couple who also slept in separate bedrms, come to find out the women this man married was actually a man they were married for yrs. and adopted kids. U should get to the bottom of what is really going on w/ur relationship before u marry u owe it to ur self to find out the truth.

Ok my boyfriend and I have separate bedrooms. I have my small office where I do my work and hide whenever he’s watching sports. He has his small studio where he listens to music and hides whenever I’m watching Gossip Girls. But when its time for bed, there’s only one room and it’s the master room…holla

Maybe she wants separate rooms until you get married??

no, well....not really alot of people have problems with there relationships im only 19 years old but i think if u guys are having trouble than just talk to her about it. or whatever it is girls like that just sleep on the couch to show her that you respect her...and that you love her. and that you will do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.

what's the point of getting married if you are going to sleep in separate rooms? i can see having separate hang out rooms, but not living quarters.

I would not want that either. Express your concerns to your soon to be wife and see why she wants this. I would get this settled before walking down the aisle together especially if this bugs you.