How do i break it to my mom that I'd rather live with my dad ?

there is no way for you to tell her w/o breaking her heart. it's just that simple.

you didn't really say but i'm going to assume <sorry for doing so but it's only a logical assumption> that your dad walked out on you and your mom 10 years ago or was it the other way around? anyway, whichever way it happened, you have never really known your dad and your mom is the one that has taken care of you when you are sick, put a roof over your head and provided you with everything that you need, right? and then you're going to just up and go live with your dad?

i'm sorry, but i don't think this is a very well thought out plan. have you discussed this with your dad or your mom? or did you jsut make the decision b/c you're pissed off at your mom for something she has done or won't let you do?

i think you need to talk first and foremost, to both of your parents. you are only 14, and as far as i know, thats not an age where you can legally make these kinds of decisions for yourself. i do wish you luck though, it sounds like you are going thru a rough time and you're going to need a lot of support.

moms do all the work of raising the child and when finally they get old enough to be mature.. they want to live with dad

find out everything you need to know about dad before making the move

why did you only get a couple of weeks.. if he really wanted to see you all the time.. why is he so far away?

he can be really nice for a few weeks a year.. no problem

visit him a longer period of time

see how he makes you do your homework or takes care of you when you're sick

don't close the door on mom.. you may need to make a quick move back

i would say go back and for forth a while and then decide

It doesn't sound like ur dad lives close to u where u can have additional time with him. Moving in with him is a big move, especially if u don't really know him as u mentioned. I'd talk to him first. Is he prepared for u to move in? Can he make more visits w/o u having to move? Can he and ur mom come together with a plan? Talk 2 ur dad. This whole question of u moving could be mute point.

When you say you are of Legal age, does that mean, over 18, Have you talked it over with your Father about you wanting to move in with him? Is he Happy you want to Live with him? It is up to you with whom you want to Live, and you are asking if it is necessary to go to Court for this reason? I don't know in which State you Live in, but if as you say you are of legal age to decide whom you want to Live with, then I don't think you need to go to Court for that. Just make sure you will reassure your Mom that you want to Live with your Father, for some time to see if Living together, would make both of you get closer together, because you need that reassurance and closeness with him. Also it does not mean you will not keep in touch with her, on the contrary you will always have her in your Heart and she will always be first in your Life, since she was there for you when you were growing up. I hope every thing will work out for you for the Better, and don't forget to tell your Mom, that if you get to miss her a lot, you will come back to her. I care.

Good for you. It is time you get to know your dad. He has that right. Call him up and tell him and let him fight this battle . Let her get along with seeing you 2-3 weeks a year. Don't let her guilt trip you.. He loves you just as much as she does.

I think that you need to visit your father more first so you can get used to where he lives. I also think that you need to start talking to your father about this. It could be that while he loves your company, he's unable to provide adequately for you full-time. It could also be that he doesn't want you full time. I hate to say that, but I've known people who have had parents do that.

Talk to her first about going out to visit your father more often. If all goes well with your father, then get him to talk to your mom about it first. I'd hesitate with you breaching the subject again since she obviously reacted so badly against it in the first place.

just tell her that you've lived with her for a long time, and that now you need to spend some time with your dad. just break it to her. you won't feel so great, but i guess it's worth a try.

okay...now that i read that, it sounds wierd. whatever. good luck