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Single mom or dad double standards?

My question is this........why is it that when a single mother goes out on dates looking for a "significant" other that could be a father figure she's out "whoring around"? But, when a single father goes out looking for a prospective mother for his children he's "looking for a mom for his kids"? What's wrong with this picture?

This is my opinion only but I HAVE heard people talking about single parents like this. I'm talking about normal dating. Not ones that bring home a new person every weekend.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    perception is the key....stupidity, immaturity....

    I can do it but you can't, attitude.

    This is a stigma that is unfortunate, but for some reason this has been a standard put on women for a very, very long time. it is nothing new.

    The woman only started going out in the working field and being able to stand on her own two feet with a family in the 50's.

    it is going to take men, a heck of a long time to get over the fact, that women don't need them to survive.

    it was a blow to their ego.....

    So they have to make it right in their minds, by not allowing women to be equals in their pursuits of the opposite sex......

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Hmm... i havent really heard that directly tagged to a single mom before. i guess it depends what kind of crew you are running around with. it might even be something how men have an adversion to raising another man's kids. there is also the sterotype of the all sacrificing mother that should put her kids needs above that of her own, and doing so is a comprise of this ideal.

    if the role reversals keep creeping up in our society as they are then soon men can be seen as the whore for not putting his cave man libido to the side and focusing all that zestful energy in the rearing of his offspring. (this is a driving factor in men, i think, sometimes, the accomplishment the prowess of their children) but in a none bad way of thinking.

  • tilly
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    1 decade ago

    I've never heard that expression about single mothers in my life. Maybe consider that single fathers are far less common than single mothers - because of silly laws etc, so the incidence of insults is going to be less, simply because there are less to insult if that makes sense.

  • 1 decade ago

    It depends on how well the single parents are doing as a parent. If they are out every weekend neglecting their children... then the accusations could very well fit.

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  • 1 decade ago

    We've been taught to think this way about single moms and dads. That's all. There is nothing inherently wrong with dating when you have children. It's just how some people have been taught to look at it.

  • 1 decade ago

    My opinion is there is a difference between dating and whoring around. If either parent are at the bar, drunk, and just trying to get laid...that is whoring around for them both..but just going out on dates to get to know someone is something totally different.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Not always true but women depend on men alot. I think younger women depend more on themselfs.

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