What in a person's childhood / life would cause her person to always take things too personally?

The socialization we receive as a child controls to a large extent our personal development. When I say depression is all about friends and family I mean they socialized us . Who else. Our reaction is based on how we were trained intentionally or by accident. The main point to remember is all children are not trained the same even in the same family. So it is easy to make some super sensitive and some super mature and undisturbed by life troubles. If you don't believe me be a spy for a while. So it is that every part of each childhood is the prime cause of what we are. We are not the same.

Every child needs to know he or she is loved, wanted and valuable. When this kind of message is lacking or twisted in a child's early life, it results in low self-esteem.

The person with low self-esteem suspects that there's something wrong with THEM, something they lack or something that shouldn't be there, which caused their primary caregivers (parents, etc) to reject them. They're constantly on guard to keep others from discovering this "awful secret" about themselves (even though they don't know what it is), and therefore are deeply affected by criticism.

The road to healing lies through the process of self-examination, resulting in self-knowledge. On the other side of self-knowledge is self-esteem or self-acceptance. So you accept you're a lousy singer, for instance, but also acknowledge your ability to grow flowers or dance up a storm.

Once you know who you really are, ALL of you, you can get on with your life and not care so much what other people think.

We are born with the personalities that we have, some people are more sensitive than others, and some just have a personality disorder, I have this problem and it interferes with my work and social life a lot.

I was really sensitive when I was young. Turns out I had an anxiety disorder. My doctor put me on Paxil and have been fine ever since. There's no reason to suffer if you don't have to.

Nothing in particular. I think to an extent we are born with the personalities we have. Maybe they are just sensitive.

a mixture of being sensitive and maybe being picked on by kids when you were young. or not having confidence in yourself.

Insecurity....maybe abandonment issues, or lack of attention as a child.......do any of those sound familiar?

(I am not making fun.....I am the same way.)