am i over reacting?

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ok... my husband is an over the road truck driver. i dont get to go out very often with friends, because i always have the kids.... tonight a friend of mine, which is a girl, was in town... who which by the way lives 1500 miles away.

so i called him and told him that i was going to go out to eat with her, and probably sit at the resturant with her and her husband, and catch up. we only see eachother maybe once a year.     i was only out 4 hours, and at 3 !/2 hours, he was on the phone, wanting to know why i wasnt home yet, why the kids wernt in bed yet, and wanted me to get home..... which by the way he isnt even home, he is on the road..

i have never given him a reason not to trust me, or will i ever... could he just be jealous that i was spending time with someone else, because we couldnt... or do you think that this could end up being a problem.... by the way... being a truck driver, he is only home 2 days for every 14 days that he is out.

thanks for reading this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

he is suffering from INSECURITY, as he is away always, try to understand his position, he does not want to leave u or kids. so relax

Anonymous · Answer

Well you knew full well he was out, did you at least get someone to look after the kids? If so I see no reason for him to be acting this way and you have every right to see your friend who you dont see very often. However if you just left the kids alone and went out regardless then yea I can see why he would be pissed, maybe you can have your friend come over the next time she is in town. If your kids are looked after prior to you going out then your husband needs to stop being a control freak.

JadeyOz · Answer

The term insecure control freak comes to mind , is he cheating on you while being out on the road ? does he report in to you his every movement? NO so hey he wants to be the good provider and be gone 12 days or 14 days or what ever so you can live the life your accustomed to thats fantastic , great even.

But your social life doesnt have to become invisible just because he CHOSE this life style for you both.

Tell him to cut his garbage and if he isnt happy get a job driving trucks locally or just deal with the fact your not going to live in a cage just because he provides the food and roofing.

Men like this make me sick to my stomach.

Me_Me_Me · Answer

He could be jealous..or..worried why the cat is away the mouse will play..not that you have giving him any reason to feel this way..it's just that when  you have a trucker husband who can't be home all the time I think they worry more about their wives being satified while they are away.

rpetch007 · Answer

TELL HIM YOU HAVE A LIFE ..AS BEING WITH HIM is like being unmarried as hes away so much  ..if he cant truss you leave him he has to much control over you .. at this time anyway ... i say just leave him as he will only get worst as time goes on

Lavetta B · Answer

It has been my experience that when someone is very controlling and jealous, they are usually the one that has something to hide.

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