Should I wonder about anything?

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I don't want to sound insecure about anything.  But I believe asking my fellow brothers would help.  I have been with my girl friend for one year.  We both have demanding jobs, I'm a correctional officer and she is a nurse.  At times we do work different shifts and the same shifts.  There are times that we get on the internet and I see at time her a lot more than me.  She is always on my space and "hiding" some of the comments emails she leaves when I walk in our room.  She told me she changed her password because she doesn't trust me looking at her profile, which I dont.  She also likes to post stuff on the answers page.  I'm just wondering should I be worrying about the excessive amount of time she is on the internet and the lack of time she wants to talk and spend with me.  There are times that she stays up all night looking and posting things especially when I'm trying to sleep.  I have respect for her not to do that to her.  Just let me know if i'm looking to far into the issue

northcountry57 · Accepted Answer

If she feels a need to hide things from you, it is a concern. A solid relationship is based on trust and open communication. We all have a right to some privacy even within a committed relationship, but to go to the extent you describe sounds wrong to me. I'm not a "brother", but I am married to one and I know how I treat my husband is a far cry from what I'm hearing here. My husband and I respect each others' privacy as far as who we chat with and so on and we trust each other enough to know that we can chat with others on a social basis. But we also do not hide what we do, either. Neither of us feels a need to close a chat window if the other comes into the room. Sounds like maybe you need to have a serious talk and tell her how you feel. If you can't get this mistrust and secrecy worked out and get things opened up, maybe you should look for a woman who is ready to make an open and honest committment.

Anonymous · Answer

No, your not looking to far into the issue...  If she is hiding something from you and changing passwords then she is obviously is guilty about something....
My advice would be to sit her down tell her how you feel and truthfully you need to think it over yourself if your having issues now is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I have personally seen the internet break up my friends parents marriage....

dianak502002 · Answer

I am a woman, and if I was acting that way, it would be because I was hiding something.  Why should she not trust you looking at her profile?  She's guilty of something, or she'd have no reason to hide.  I've got a MySpace page, and my husband knows all the passwords to everywhere I go.

we_are_legion99 · Answer

It's easy for people to judge her from a distance and say she is up to no good.
She is however causing unnecessary stress on your relationship by being secretive and apparently compulsive in her Internet activities.
Suggestion:  Tell her you don't like secrets and if it continues it will have a negative effect on your relationship.
How can you trust someone who is being secretive.  
Give her the chance to come clean, you owe her that.  If it doesn't work you are no worse off......Then be careful.
I wish you well.

Ron N · Answer

You have more than probable cause to feel the way you do.
A relationship is based on trust,,If she is taking and secreting
things from you.. you are headed for serious problem...

Sit down with her,, and chapter and verse everything you have
stated in your question,, If you get a dance routine,, we had
an old saying in Thailand called C.H. I duwee Ki. which 
means sorry about that s**t... Find a new partner and move
on.. life is to short to play games.

ItsJustMe · Answer

Yes, if she is hiding things from you, you do need to wonder.  In my opinion, she is acting suspiciously, and she is also being inconsiderate to stay up all night online when you are trying to sleep.  Also, if she says she does not trust you, and she is hiding things from you, your relationship has issues.

Time to find someone more mature, who trusts you and respects you.  She sounds very immature and inconsiderate.

Sherry B · Answer

run as fast as you can. there are plenty of women out there that would love to date a non-cheater. but, in the future, don't hold the actions of your current girlfriend against any future girls. not all girls are liars.
my husband is also a CO, and I know you have a high stress job. don't make your life any more complicated. 
good luck.

vite · Answer

cellular telephones...Worst ever invention..Mine isnt ask your self why yet offended human beings being served in keep or PO cellular rings and that they stand there taking the call somewhat of consistent their business enterprise on the counter..... On a bus prepare or maybe contained in the line only at so and so be with you in X minutes no longer forgetting they are used by using human beings that cheat on companions

? · Answer

My FORMER fiance was the same way.  Made me out to be stupid, jealous, ridiculous, turned out he was talking to other women online, settting up dates for when he was "working" and sending nude images of himself to others online.   Never expected that from him in a million years.

Anonymous · Answer

dude,get rid of her before it costs you a fortune 5 years down the road.the fact that she hides anything is your first clue.

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