? how do I approach the subject with daughter of granddaughter getting heavy?

This is a really tough situation. It's the same thing with my sister and her daughter.It's devastating to watch. But the main problem is that these very obese people are in denial.Maybe you could talk to your granddaughter when your daughter isn't around. And try talking to your daughter about the health issues of being so overweight, and how much you worry about her. And Weight Watchers is a wonderful organization where she will feel comfortable. Offer to go with her, they teach healthy eating habits that anyone can benefit from! Good Luck.

At three hundred pounds, the concern isn't just what she eats, but why she eats. She has to be in deep emotional pain to have gotten that heavy. Both your daughter and granddaughter need to be able to express themselves; all of their feelings and thoughts without being told not to. A good counselor can help your daughter learn to do that in a safe environment, but it has to be her choice. If you believe that you can control what they eat by extolling the virtues of lowfat food, then maybe you've been way too controlling in her life. It could be that her overeating is a way to assert herself in an unhealthy way with you. I'll bet she's smart enough to know what healthy eating habits are, so of course she's offended when you insult her intelligence like that. You're right to be concerned about how much she weighs, but it's hers to deal with. She's far more likely to embrace health if you accept her as she is; she needs your love more than anything.

Your daughter needs to help herself for her own benefit and that of those around her-being that overweight can cause a lot of health problems. You are doing the right thing trying to teach the granddaughter about good eating habits! Keep it up!

One thing to do is try making sure that they know it is coming out of love, not disgust. Your daughter probably feels bad about her weight already. One thing you might try is exercising with them or with just your granddaughter if your daughter is unwilling. Take her to the park, go for long walks in the neighborhood, go walking around the mall window shopping, pay for and take her to some kind of sports activity where she will get plenty of exercise. For instance, swim team, soccer, baseball/softball, basketball, etc. These are all great ways for your granddaughter to get lots of exercise, boost her own self-esteem, learn teamwork, etc. Your daughter may pick up the habit of going with you two. Once she starts seeing her own weight decreasing, she may decide to try to eat healthier, also. Hope this helps. Good luck, Rail

Well then screw your daughter. She needs to know that she is morbidly obese and will soon have problems if she doesn't. Also tell her that she is gambling with her daughter's life by not doing anything.