Wife wants to go to the bar alone.?

There's nothing in a bar except sex partners. Unless you are going with her tell her that's out.

Since she travels with a male co-worker I think there a simple equation you can use.

Bar * (drinks + male co-worker) = sex acts and debauchery.

It's called negotiation. Does it have to be a bar or nightclub? Can it be a friend's house to watch the game, a pizza parlor that serves alcohol, a sporting event, bowling alley or pool hall, or something else? I cherich my "girls' nights" and they are usually at my house so anyone can spend the night and not worry about drinking and driving or watching our behavior out in public. My husband occasionally stops after work with some guys or goes to a party himself if I cannot go. Does she have girfriends she can go with or can she hook up with the other guys' women for a girls' night. Yes I agree time alone with friends is important to be a "guy" or a "girl" without anyone feeling uncomfortable that someone of the opposite sex is with you, and am sorry if she does not understand this at all. But if she is just uncomfortable with the bar or nightclub idea then it is not unreasonable. Why does it have to be a bar or nightclub if she is uncomfortable with it? If you work something out so you get to have the guys only night out then make sure you plan a date for the two of you and include her in your guys night by sharing stories when you get home.

I am the married mother of one child. I go out by myself without my husband and meet friends/co-workers because he embarrasses me when he gets drunk. Did you think about the last time YOU went out with her to a bar? What happened? Men think it's all about sex. It's not. It's about being respected as a PERSON. Women need to feel independent now, we work, raise kids, do dishes, laundry, yard work, pet care, home maintenance, TAKE CARE EVERYTHING and sometimes, we need a break from EVERYTHING!

I wouldn't go for that at all! From the little bit you've told us I can't for sure say that there's a thing with her co-worker. Your right to be concerned about it though.

But this bit about her needing to get hit on in order to feel good about herself. No Way I would accept that. I'm surprised she even had the guts to tell you -- there's no doubt that eventually she'll leave you for someone that she falls for in the bar. It's just inevitable.

You are putting up with something that you should not have to put up with. A happily married woman should not need to go to "bars" to unwind or to have strangers hit on her to feel good about herself.

Don't feel bad, it is her problem and not yours. She needs some counseling and maybe even the two of you need marriage counseling. A marriage cannot succeed with one party, either the man or woman, is out bar hopping to feel good.

Sounds like she is unhappy in the marriage and is wanting a way out, or for you to leave so she can be the injured party.

Protect yourself, and remember that you deserved to be loved the way you want to love her.

Good Luck

If she is not already cheating on you then she is putting herself out there. The fact that she wants guy to hit on her when she is married is twisted, she is looking for a better opportunity or a brief fling at the very least. I've seen this situation soooo many times and it never ends well for the person in your spot.

Tread with care!

Your sub conscious mind is telling you that you have to be concerned.

If you ask me, she is out either cheating, or looking to cheat.

If she is that insecure to have to go validate herself in a bar, then you need to protect yourself, and probably move on.

You are not being over protective... you are being under protective to yourself!

BTW - If you are having unprotected sex with her, I would stop that right away. No need for you to catch something.

Let's face it - women have little trouble getting into "trouble" in a bar. Especially when they bring their own guy along.

Looks like you made a neat pick there. Hate to break it in to you but you have poor wife material. If there arent children involved and you can get out pretty unscarred Id consider a divorce.

If that is what makes her feel good about herself, she has issues. Maybe she needs rehab and counseling. I have never thought it was cool sitting at a bar alone. What fun!

Maybe you are being overprotective... Do you have reasons not to trust her? Have you explained to her your concerns, calmly and rationally, and why you're bothered by the fact that she feels the need to go to bars alone? Or have you just freaked out on her?