my mom died of a massive heart attack last month and im still having a hard time dealing with it please help?

Oh, I'm so sorry! It takes a long time to get over something like this, especially when it was unexpected. It won't always hurt as much as it does now. You need to be able to talk, cry, or do whatever helps you.

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I'm so sorry you lost your mom.

That's a lot to deal with. Losing your mother, suddenly or any other way is the kind of grief that doesn't really get "handled" quickly or easily. One thing you might try is to find a grief group where other people who are struggling with a loss can share their difficulties and their encouragement with you. Be gentle with yourself, give yourself enough time for grieving before you expect to be back to "normal". Spend time savoring your favorite memories about your mom. Write a journal or make a book of your memories and pictures of your mom. Even if you never look at the book after you write it, it can be very calming to do it. When you lose a loved one, it's something you learn to cope with, not something you really get over. The loss will always be there, but your ability to cope with it should improve with time. If your grief is seriously interfering with taking care of necessary things in your life you might need to try seeing a therapist. Just remember, grief does take time and it's not a straight line improvement. You will have some better days and then some that are worse before things get easier. Just keep on living. Try to keep in touch with friends and family. Try to keep doing some of the things you enjoy. Just keep on putting one foot in front of the other. I wish you good luck in your progress.

I am afraid it is one of those things we all go through. There is no easy solution and no cure that I know of except time. A month is very short. it takes longer.

Elizabeth Kubler-Rross has written books about it, there are support groups and consellors, but it still hurts.

The only thing I have found that helps is to observe it. By that I mean that one time when I was going through it, I was curious and wondered what it was that I was feeling. i thought about the feeling, was it physical, was it mental, was it emotional, and what sort of emotion etc. By observing myself having the feeling of grief in order to learn about it, I found that it became less painful. I don't know if this works for everyone though.

Time heals.

Hey...-a Month is a very SHORT time to get over losing ones Mother...- and it's probably GOING TO take a LOT longer than THAT- to fully get a grip on your feelings... If it helps at ALL; just Remember as MUCH about your mother as you CAN (the GOOD & BAD things & Times)- so that you can pass THOSE Memories on to Your children & everyone who might want to know about her. She is a part of YOU- & You're the One who carries Her Dreams- forward... Hang in there... :)

First let me say I am so very sorry for your loss. Death is hard enough to deal with as it is, but when i comes so unexpectedly it's even harder. You are taking the first step and that is talking about it. Talk to your friends and your family... and just remember that as hard as it seems now... it will get better. Time does heal all wounds. God Bless.

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I am so sorry for your loss. It helps to remember the good times with that person. I would let whatever emotion you feel out, if you want to cry, cry, find someone to hang out with, talk to your dad, or someone who understands grief. Just know that it will get better with time

I'm sorry for your lost. It is absolutely natural to still be mourning. You will eventually heal, it is just going to take some time. Try spending time with family and friends.

There is such a thing as grief counseling. It does get better. But you never forget your mom. She's with you every day. Always.