pleeeeezzzz help me! im hurting so bad!!!?

I never trusted those words-"She just a friend and I just wont to help her...."Especially if she's just a friend I never herd of .And I've gotten a proof to justify those instincts.I mean,guys wont you to shake all your male friends,even best friend cause they are jealous and afraid,but they come up with something like that and want you to understand.

But don't worry, there is a solution.If you tell him that you don't feel comfortable with this,you're only gonna engage into a fight,him telling you that you are jealous and have nothing to fear about, and if you tell her something,she's gonna tell him and you're gonna get the same thing.

So,the best thing to do is to stay close,act friendly to her,become friends,listen to her,advice her and don't forget to mention her how much you love your boyfriend and make sure she sees it.

Try this first. Offer her a bed/couch at your place ( or your parents or close girlfriends with space). See what her reaction is. That will tell you a lot about what is going on. Since their place is only one bedroom, after some initial hesitation (which would be normal) see what her reaction is. This will tell you a lot. Have a good friend with you so that she can help you interpret this woman's reactions (none of us see to clearly when we feel threatened). Make sure you and your friend act friendly and warm so she doesn't say no based on fear of you.

Ultimately only you will know if something really is going on or if your boyfriend kept it quiet because he didn't want to upset you, knowing how you'd react.

Good luck

You have every right to feel this way...if nothing was ever going on then why bother lying about it??? This definately doesnt seem right but u have the right idea...give him til his deadline...if by 2 weeks she isnt gone or he is still making excuses for her, then either he need s to man up and let her know my girlfriend of 4.5 years is really uncomfortable with this im sorry but uneed to find some place else to sleep, or come up with a life or death reason why she cant leave ...if by 2 weeks she is still there it is time for the ultimatum because that sh!t just doesnt fly

If you really and truly love him and he has never done anything to betray your trust then you should trust him whole heartedly! It sounds to me like they are just friends and it is just a friend helping out a friend. Maybe talk to the chick friend and just make sure her intentions are good. Try not thinking about yourself in this situation and trying being a friend to her and giving her a should to cry on. Maybe ask her if she wants to stay with you. Two guys with one bed in an apt? Maybe you should be more worried about that then the guy and girl????

Man, he's a cheater. How can he do that? If I were in your shoes, I would call him privately and tell him boldly that I don't like the idea of another woman sleeping in the same bed with him. Maybe he'll look into the light and realize that what he's doing is wrong! Hope I helped!

Its hard to trust if you have feeling of jealousy.. just talk to him..tell your boyfriend that you feel uncomfortable that a girl will be moving in to his place. If he tells you to trust him & he assured that the girl is just a friend, count on his words. Don't ruin your relationship with jealousy.but take away those doubts, you don't want to spend all your day thinking about that girl or your boyfriend right.keep yourself busy. if you feel something's not right,confront him right away.Girls intincts, you will know if your boyfriend is fooling around with you, if he turns cold to you, doesnt call you,..you would know..For now, just let those feelings go.Just trust him

I think you're being over anxious. but thats ok, cos that means u really care about the guy. maybe u can make a few surprise visits to the house to check on wats happening there, if that would ease ur mind. frankly i think you're making a mountain out of a molehill

You really need to confess your feelings to him, you to have been together way too long to let the communication barrier break down now. Let him know exactly what you are expressing to so many strangers. I understand completely I have been in my relationship for 3.5 and once you stop communicating you stop being in a relationship.

what is causing her to ruin your life besides that he didnt tell you right away that she was moving in, if she is just friends can you trust that and if not maybe you do need to move on after 41/2 years i would think you should know your BF by now

tough one... My opinion would be to try to be with him as much as you can for the next two weeks. If she isn't out in two weeks, yes I say to leave. I also think that he probably hid it from you because he knew you would be upset about it. But again, if he knew you would be upset about it, then he shouldn't of offered for her to stay. Good luck