Should I be shouting from the rooftops??!!?

Both you and your friend just see things differently, and in this instance, I think you have to "agree to disagree". There is nothing wrong with how you are handling the way people will know about your sexuality, I agree with you mostly that you don't need to have an "in your face" approach.

However, I also see the point of people who DO like the in your face" tactic. It comes as a shock value, but at the same time, it desensitizes people from thinking we are so "exotic" that we are nowhere to be found, and so homophobic folks are fine making jabs at our expense. If they knew we were all around them, they would not be so carelessly liberal with their witless humor.

Since you are both out and proud, there really is nothing to do but to shake your hands on your difference of opinion!

Maybe he just has gay pride and wants everyone to know that he's different in that way. When I read your question thing, I was thinking how much of a headache I would have if everyone shouted out their sexuality from their rooftops. GAY! STRAIGHT! lol it'd be like marco polo!

anyway, you don't have to shout it out, it shouldn't be seen as something that you have to let everyone know because it's who YOU are. I agree that people shouldn't have the need to be shouting it out like it's such an abnormal thing that you'd HAVE to, but that maybe some people just have the impulse to...maybe to find someone that will say HEY I'M GAY TOO!

wow thats the most sensible view ive heard. You are completly right.. I get sick of people who are gay and go on and on and on about wanting to be treated like everyone else and not be persecuted for being gay but at the same time ram it down your throat that they are gay. Some gay people wear it like a badge and act totally flamboyant about it but then complain when people comment about them. I dont shout from the rooftops that im hetero and like women so i wouldnt expect a gay person to do it...

You are absolutely right. Sexuality is a very private thing.

I received an email this morning from a Yahoo Answers contact, and all the email said was "Are you gay?". I see this as an intrusion on my privacy, but since he can read this answer I guess he now knows.

I also resent the questions on YA that ask about the sexuality of celebs. It's not our business to know their sexuality.

save pride for accomplishments !

Are you proud of your hair color or your the size of your feet or the shape of your nose to the point that you would parade around the city about it?

Don't get me wrong. I am gay and happy to be so. but not PROUD as if its something I DID. the parades are about claiming rights and that was important. i am no more proud of being gay than i was ever ashamed of it. Its just how i am.

I AM Proud to be a citizen in the first country in the western world to legalize gay marriage. I would like our neighbors to the south to follow suit and that would make me really proud.

I find it hilarious when gay people fight for years to be accepted for "who they are" without prejudice and then when a gay person does not behave stereotypically gay they want to change them. I think your fine just as you are, we are all our own person and express our feelings and personality in different ways. your friend has no right to make you feel you are less proud than him just because your not loud about it. So carry o and be yourself i think that is what is important and what allot of gay people have forgotten, "being yourself."

I'm straight, but I understand what your saying. I mean it's not like straight people tell the world about their sexuality. Some people like to keep to theselves, & some like to express their sexuality more & let the whole world know what they're all about. & you're right, it's no one elsed buisness but your own. & no, you shouldn't be shouting from the rooftops if you don't want to.

I wouldn't describe your friend as being proud... its more like he is trying to use it as a status symbol.

Kinda like being gay is in fashion and by him being gay he is more fashionable.

I think its bs.

He's behaving like a preacher... and no one likes a preacher of anything.

I suspect 99% of people find him irritating at the best of times, maybe it even tarnishes people perception of how a gay person would act... more harm than good.

NO

You shouldn't be shouting anything from the rooftops. Totally pointless and irritating to everyone else.

I'm straight and the few gays I know agree as well as I do you don't have to shout about it no matter whether your gay, straight or whatever.

I don't agree with gay but I won't nag on it either, I just love my friends for them self's. Thanks You for mentioning this.