Permission from your spouse?

I inform my spouse and see if we have any engagements for that evening, if we do then I attend and if not too late and she does not want to go, i then proceed to go out as I had intended. As long as I have told her I do not need her permission, I extend the invitation and if she declines then I proceed as planned. If she does not like it, then she may have some words for me but I will not be held prisoner in my own home and I too would not do the same to her.

re: the question you said you read about the guy wanting to go out with his wife best friend and husband, he openly said he has/had a crush on her and flirts with the wife so i dont blame him wife at all there. However I do agree that when your married there not your parent, I had this friend that was just dating a guy and she was never allowed to go anywhere with me, if she did (which was rare) her bf had to follow us! Needless to say she lost alot of friends like that and is married to this man now. If my husband wants to go somone he can as long as he calls me to let me know he will be late or whatever. Keeping a leash around the spouse wont get you far in a marriage. Then again I guess in some marriages there might be a need for a leash.

I think each spouse has the right to do what they want, but after all, they did marry EACH OTHER, so the majority of their activities should be with EACH OTHER. If this changes and one spouse starts spending more time with others, then there is a problem somewhere. Sure, work schedules, etc, can change, but the choice of PREFERRED companion was made when you married. Whatever makes for keeping each other happy and feeling loved is what couples should always try to do.

My grandmother use to say, "Don't start out doing something that you don't plan on doing your entire marriage." Meaning, if you start out asking then you'll always have to. I don't ask my husband to go out, nor do I tell him that he can or cannot go out. We let each other know of our plans, and whether or not it will interfere with the others plans for the evening or day, and we just go do it. End of story. Trust and communication are key in a good marriage.

there are some people in the world that actually care about what there spouses think and feel however so thats why the permision thing. if you and your spouse dont care about what the other one does and dont want to see eachother that one you dont bash on someone that actualy cares about the way there spouse veiws there activities.

Permission? No he doesn't need it. But I do appreciate it if he checks in with me first if I mind or if it clashes with agenda's I see it as being a point of reference and courtesy.

its called having respect for the other person.

yeah they can't give "permission" to go out but if your husband or wife would perfer you not do somthing at that time then have respect for him/her to not do it.

compromise

yes I hate to admit it but my husband thinks that if go out or even talk to a guy then he thinks that I will cheat on him.