What is a fair solution to my roommate problem(s)?

You all need to discuss this or split up.

I think it would be fair that the person having the visitor should pay extra.

Work out the daily rate for each of you and when one of the others have a visitor then that is what they should pay extra towards the household. Visitors should clean up after themselves or the person who invited them should do this work.

Guests should only be allowed access to the house when the person who invited them is there and they should leave when that person goes as well.

Your shared house is not a homeless shelter and your hospitality and good nature should not be abused.

If you overheads for the house are £1000.00 pcm then a stay over for 24hrs should cost £34.00 per day excluding drinks and snacks etc. At the end of the month whatever has been collected should reduce the overheads for everyone proportionally so that you all feel the benefit.

If the abusers refuse, start packing them up and shipping them out. FInd other housemates.

Look at your lease to see what the limitations are. If only four people are allowed, then clue in the management staff about the problem. This can bring a resolution of the problem.

If your living there and they are allowing this to happen, take care of your business like your grocery bill etc, clean up after yourself but DO NOT clean up after the freeloaders. Eventually the place will be so messy the others cant stand it. When they ask you about helping to clean, simply state that you did clean up after yourself and that they should do the cleaning since they just let their boyfriend/sister move in.

The idea of sending a letter is good. You need to state your side and make it known that you will not tolerate it. Put in that if X or Y do stay during the week, then they need to pay their part on the bills and that it is not fair to you or your other roomate (the other who has noone moved in) that these two be allowed to live here and not help on bills, its not fair that they eat food that is not theirs and its not fair that they did not ask to live there. They are not on the lease, therefore should only stay on the weekends and weekends only and should be gone by 12 noon on Sunday. If this continues, management will be notified and action taken.

I would not worry about them running behind your back because they have already done that. They did that when they allowed them to live there. If you cause hard feelings, so what? You were more than patient and more than generous with your suggestion of splitting the bills six ways instead of four. When the two freeloaders are there, gather everyone in one room and have a frank talk about what you mentioned here....once the freeloaders realize that they will have to pay they will likely jump ship. Ask your other roomate how she feels about the other two moving their significant others move in. You may find that she is unhappy about it as well. When you have this discussion, make it known that you dont mind if they stay once in a while, but every night is way too much. Tell your roomates its great that they have a boyfriend that loves them and that they care so much about their sister, but there are rules and that you did not sign up to have two people living there for free. Be gentle but firm about it. Get to their sentimental side...and dont appear like a complete b**ch about the whole thing.

If worse comes to worst, ask that one of the freeloaders take over your part of the lease (meaning sign their name, and yours comes off, etc.) and find somewhere else to stay that offers a short-term lease.

Are there any limitations in your lease or perhaps you should get some information from the manager's office. Explain your issue very simply and matter of factly to them. Most apartment complexes have limits on how many people can live in an apartment. AND first of all, if ANY of the common bills are in your name, shut them off IMMEDIATELY. Have the other girls put them in one of their names. That goes for the phone too.

You should start documenting how long each of the person has stayed there, on which nights, days, etc... Write a letter to each of the other roommates stating only the facts and what you expect. For example, As you know I have issues with x & Y staying over frequently. I discussed this with you both on these dates and asked "whatever".... X amount of time has gone by since our last discussion and I am still unhappy about the arrangements. Then, explain EXACTLY what you want to see happen. So, if they've been there for the entire month of Febrary, then say, beginning in March I'd like to see X&Y pay $ towards rent and $ toward bills (or 1/5 of the water, phone, heat---whatever it is you pay for that they are using. Also, since our refridgerator is noncommunal please refrain from eating food that is not yours. ---If this does not happen, the next step will be contacting the police and taking legal action. It is VERY easy for you to take all of these people to small claims court. Keep notes, leases, journalling, bills, and dates they've stayed there. (when I was in college I had a roommate that had to take her ex roommates to court over non pmt of bills)

Keep it even - no anger - just matter of fact. I bet this will get their attention.

Nothing will change; everyone else seems content with the status quo unless you can get some of the other roommates on your side, so if you can, fine then lay down some much needed rules including limited overnights, no taking of food and paying part of the bills and rent if they spend more than one night a week. You actually need to be more concerned with limiting the time they both spend there, it is not a dormitory it is where you all live and there must be some consideration somewhere...your only other alternative is to move out.

These people are just unbelievably selfish and taking terrible advantage of the rest of you.

The fair solution is for the parties not on the lease to NOT live there. You didn't sign up for that. Perhaps you can move out and suggest to the other roommates that one of the non-residents take over your lease.

I understand your fears about people talking behind your back, but this is not one of those situations that is worth tolerating just to maintain friendships. Real friends wouldn't put you in that position in the first place.

Talk to the landlord. Most places state in the lease that you can not move someone in without their permission, and their signing the lease.

If the landlord won't do anything about it, I would suggest going around the room on grocery day and making everyone chip in. You don't pay, you don't eat. Same with everything else. No help on the water bill, no shower. Put your foot down - and it helps to enlist your roommates' support also.

I would suggest asking again about splitting the bills, or if they can't pay, then they should at least pay for food and clean. Check with the landlord (or whoever owns the place) and try to make an arrangement like where you pay for your share of the stuff, and then if they don't pay, you're protected but they're not. Or you could just move. Don't put up with it!

Start eating their food and drinking their drinks. And then, only pay 1/6 of your rent as opposed to 1/4. And find a new place to live next semester.

invite the most obnoxious person you know to do the same and when they call you on it tell them its a four room place for four people. overnight guests on weekends only and they have to be gone by sunday noon so you can enjoy the day.

Or if you don't like that route then say if they want their boyfriends to "come and go as they please" then they will owe 2/5 of the rent instead of 1/4

Wow, that's a demanding one. You needless to say have distinctive life, which makes me ask your self why you chosen to be roommates to start with. i think of he's being VERY thoughtless coming in that late and making plenty noise. Very unfair. in case you could no longer reason with him on that subject, perhaps a good pair of earplugs may well be one answer for you. he's unquestionably no longer entitled to greater room seeing as the type you pay the comparable quantity of lease. If he needs greater room then perhaps HE ought to pay greater lease. (looks such as you 2 want a greater place). i think of that each and every of you ought to be buying your guy or woman toiletries, and that is composed of bathroom paper. so a techniques as cleansing up after himself, my God, that's rather like the rudest element EVER whilst living with a roommate. i think of you adult adult males ought to hold a gathering, and each of write down what bothers you maximum approximately one yet another, after which attempt to settle on those themes like adults rather of youth. once you have 2 persons, 2 distinctive personalities sharing an extremely small area, communique is a ought to or it in basic terms won't artwork out. try conversing with him first, after which perhaps evaluate the two shifting or getting a clean roommate.