Wife wants to leave me, says she doesn't love me anymore after months of marriage?

I feel bad for you...but I would go back where your family is for moral and emotional support...sounds like you'd be gettin used if you saty...Almost like a booty call/babysitter`

As you probably are, I'm at a loss as to how someone could fall out of love after 6 months of marraige, especially if you are as good a dad and husband as she has expressed to you.

I think you may have nailed the best option on the head, by considering moving back to be near your family. You will no doubt miss your daughter, but the power to be her dad might be out of your hands.

It is extremely unfair of her to ask you to stay around as a friend. "Unfair" is an understatement.

I am wondering if the two of you have considered counseling... I'm also wondering how she is behaving towards the seperation, as in, is she acting upset about it, or nonchalant and indifferent, because that would provide some insight into her state of thinking.

If you've been working at the same place for 10 years you will look great on paper and should have no troubles finding new work, so I wouldn't worry about that, plus the change could do you some good and help establish a fresh start.

Another thing you may want to consider, since you are feeling emotionally unstable (who wouldn't!) is seeking out a counselor for yourself... it can help immeasurably, as the discussions can pull you out of the loops you are probably going through in your mind. Attempting to cope through something like this alone can be very difficult and dangerous, so don't be afraid to reach out to an objective professional who can help you devise a strategy to cope and heal.

I wish you all the luck and hope that the best outcome presents itself to you quickly.

It sounds like staying would be to hard. Because you would be watching her move on happily with someone else. (This was a office romance! This is why it is a bad idea to get romantically involved.) 10 years is a long time to invest in a job and just walk away from it.

I think you should give her the divorce she wants. Pack up. And get as much distance as you can from all of it. And learn from all this. NEVER involve yourself at work.

As for the little girl, a step parent can invest all of their heart, all their money, and time into the children of a spouse. But, when it is over, you lose that too. You have no rights. And the child can be used by your ex to keep control over your life. Sad but true.

she never loved u. she played u. what i think was while u were w/ her (before u got married & after u got married) she used u for financial support & emotional support. she also used u to play daddy for the kid she had. u need to accept the fact that she was cheating on u & found someone else that was better than u & that she really wanted to be w/ & dropped u like a sack of potatoes. u were used as a means to an end or her beginning. i'm sorry about this guy. it happens all the time & i know u invested alot into this relationship & i'm very sorry but keep ur head up i got the solution for u.

solution

u need to leave that place & go back home to get the support from ur family & friends & get on ur feet. it has to be hard working for an employer for 10 yrs but u have to leave & start over w/ another employer. if u stay she will be bring this guy to work, to the house, denouncing u behind ur back, etc. i know u have this attachment w/ the kid but u need to remember its not ur child. she ised the child to get what she wanted out of u. u need to save face & have nothing else to do w/ the child. never contact her again & never talk to her again.

lesson.

never date anyone u work w/. tese things can get otta control. never date anyone that has children. believe me its so much easier of u date someone w/out kids.

Wow, she is obviously not mature enough. Doesn't she realize that the "love" feeling isn't an emotion? I know this sounds strange but the "love" to see in movies isn't the same. Love is in the everyday things we do for each other. Like talking about ones day or doing the dishes after she has made dinner. I think she is full of s**t, you need to move on. Go back home and start new. I think it was rude of her to say I don't love you, but you need to stay so I can use you.

It's going to be hard, but you can do it!

You should read/watch "The Secret" it helped me :)

I have just recently told my husband it is over too(after 13 years), and although I still love him with all my heart I can't be in the marriage anymore, because he did not respect me. We too live in a very small town(about 250 people)so running into him is inevitable, and it's not going to be easy for either of us. I would move back to where you have the support that you know you are going to need and be with family that really cares. If she wants you to be around for her and her daughter then why did she leave. No one leaves someone who treats them right for nothing-there is more to this.

It sounds to me like she never took the sacred vows of marriage seriously in the first place.

I say that if she is serious, and not having some sort of mental or moral breakdown, then you should leave. Don't let her have her way and be there for her and her child if she's going to give you the major blow off. It really sounds like she has issues, she doesn't want to lose you as a friend? That's crazy, she sucks, MOVE ON!

Fella, the situation is terrible. SHE is terrible....and don't think otherwise. She owe's it to you to explain in more detail what happened. Push for honesty since it's over anyway....is there someone else? And yes, she is being very selfish.

Escape for a long weekend and talk it through with your family. You need to get away from her and spend enough time to define what must be for YOU.....think about what's most important to you (your values, needs, integrity) and make sure your future plans align with that. It will take time to get through the shock...make sure you have someone to talk this through with (support ).

It takes two to make it work, so don't be a nice guy and meet all her needs while you play second place. Intentional or not, she has given up on you, so you need to consider you and only you at this point.....

I'm so sorry to hear that. She's not giving your marriage any sort of chance. So many people throw in the towel when things aren't what they expect. SO much for the "better or worse." Normally it'd be easy to just pack up & move back around your family, but with a child involved, it's not so easy. I think you should try to talk to your wife & tell her everything you just told us here. I don't know if it'll change her mind, but she needs things put in perspective. Good luck...

Damn, I honestly feel bad for you and I have no advice to give you except the fact I hope you meet a fine lady and have 2 1/2 kids and make this future ex wife of yours jealous as hell. Dude it hurts now but if the old saying is true... "time will heal all wounds". I also like "what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger" even if it takes time

that doesn't sound right you have been the perfect husband but for no reason she wants a divorce. i would say just stay friends so your daughter can have a father figure in her life and who knows staying close to home and raising your daughter could be a great chance for you and your wife to work out things in the future. being separate can make the heart grow fonder, maybe she just needs space.