I am married and have a male friend, why do I feel guilty?

It is great that you are honest with your husband. That is an important factor to remember. There is nothing wrong with having friends as long as you remember where the priorities truly are.

My gut tells me that you are not feeling guilty about seeing him. You may be feeling guilty about your friend's condition and how your life turned out better/different.

Well, you probably feel guilty because while you wouldn't cheat on your husband with this person, you feel that in another world you could be with this person.

Why don't you invite your husband into this friendship. Tell your husband and your friend that it would mean a lot to you to be able to share your friendship. I'm sure that if your husband has an active shared role in the friendship he will feel more comfortable about it and you will feel better as well.

What do the content of your conversations with this individual entail? Maybe flirty rather suggestive, but unintentional things are said between the two of you. This could be a reason you feel guilty...Pesonally I think your husband is amazing for letting you hang out with an ex-boyfriend. I don't hang out with my ex out of respect for my boyfriend because I know he would not prefer it and I would not like him hanging out with his ex. Hanging out with an ex even if he was a friend before you dated makes you reminisce about the good times you had with that person, including the naughty times, thus adding to guilty feelings.

Sure,i do feel guilty,i really have no idea why?One factor i do know that i am no longer the one flirting.However i relatively experience speaking to yet another married man.Simply to discover their point of view about household,kids,other halves.If the conversation goes to another course,that's once I get very uncomfortable and alter the discipline.

I don't know. A male friend that you slightly might have a crush on? I know he's just a friend but I don't know. Your mind can play tricks on you. Just keep your distance and you'll be safe. After all your husband knows about him, which is good. You probably just enjoy his company and having someone to talk to, other than your husband. But I don't know. It's hard to have guy friends only because it gets complicated once your married. But that's my opinion.

Only you know why you feel guilty. There must be more to this than you are letting on. By reading this, I don't know why you should be feeling guilty. But...

Are you guilty because you meet up with him?

Are you guilty because you want more from him?

Are you thinking what if?

Should your husband be more wary of your meetings with him

Are you planning on sleeping with him now because you didn't all those years ago?

These might be some reasons you would feel guilty.

well, at least ur not doing anything wrong with him right NOW! and your husband knows but if you dont want that guilty feeling anymore, than tell your husband about what you did in the past. If he already knows, just say that you're not doing anything intimate or anything

Because as much as women like to deceive themselves into thinking they can, married women can’t have “guy friends.” Disabled, not disabled, young, old, it doesn’t matter. Men hang around women they want to have sex with. Period.

And some women like to keep a few "relief pitchers" in the bullpen in case the starter gets injured, to use a baseball analogy.

Don’t believe me? Ask your “guy friend” if he wants a quick, no-strings romp – of any sort. Whatever he is capable of (I say that so you don’t dodge the issue, right?).

And your husband knows this.

As all men do.

We have 3 lists in our heads – [1] women we want to screw, [2] women we have already screwed, and [3] women too hideous to screw. And we do NOT hang around 3’s, sweetie.

You have a “guy friend” – your **husband**. Start pouring your heart out to him and spending time with him and hanging with him and telling him all your troubles.

regardless of how innocent your convos are with the other man the fact remains your cheating on your husband. It is emotional cheating. It is not right and you should feel guilty. Sorry for being so direct.

don't feel guilty my friend because he is your long friend .

you are just trying to help him , he is your good friend and it's good to have a friend, but if your husband think's different and would rather you not see him then don't, because your husband means more to you, and you don't want anything to happen to your marriage.

make it clear that he is just a friend from long ago and that that's all it is. take care.