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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Eye Contact and Hugging?

I've got a lady friend and she is taken and I don't want to be more than friends but I am undoubtedly attracted to her and want to be close friends you know (not to take advantage) Anyways I lately overcame not being able to make eye contact and now it seems when I talk to her all I do is stare in her eyes, and sometimes I catch myself doing it and look away but then I go right back. I don't in any way want to come off creepy or make her uncomfortable but I know eye contact is key and I want to make an impression of my personality. So any tips on how long, how often, other places I should look on the face, anything?

Second question is about hugging. We started hugging lately and I also know that hugs can make a horrible day great so I was wondering when hugging a female any day (specially bad days) how should I do it? tight/loose and long/short? keep contact as the hug ends like hold my hand on her back but only for a moment? I am not sure about it so any detail is great Thank you

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  • Chibi
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    talking as friends is fine - hugging on the other hand you need to think about her situation - is her bf the jealous type? if so you guys need to limit hugging to hello and goodbuys a quick hand wrap around and let go. If someone is in a relationship they shouldn't be hugging intimately with anyone else besides their partner. So if you don't want to cause arguments between her and her bf then limit your hugs. And don't keep your hand on her

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well first of all she is taken. So the logical thing to do would be to back off and try your best to find someone else. Although your feelings might not let you do so that easily. It's not going to be a good outcome though if you and her have something going on while she's dating someone else because all of this would only end up in a disaster. I know you can't help your feelings so in the meantime don't tempt her to cheat , but what you can do is wait and have fun looking for others and if her relationship does not work out than you can jump in when that happens. I've got about the same problem as you .

  • 5 years ago

    As I woman, I can say that I don't smile or make eye contact with men I don't know because it invites them to talk to me or approach me and there are a lot of creeps in the world with sinister intentions. I have been assaulted TWICE and I just don't want to take any chances. Don't take it personally. What is wrong with being 5'5"??? My husband is 5'5" and I think he is the most attractive man alive. He never commiserates about his height and I think that is important. You will be more attractive to women if you don't convey an insecurity about your height. If it's any consolation, I get told by both men and women all the time that I am very beautiful, so if it's true (I am my worst critic), then you should rest assured that even 5'5" guys can land hotties!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Ok so look her in the eyes when your talking to her and look at her mouth or nose, and sometimes eyes when she's talking to you

    Ok when you hug try not to randomly go up to her and hug her wait until she hugs you unless your dating, hug her not to tight but close and not long for about 20 seconds at the most unless you are dating, she will put her hands on your shoulders so you put her hands right above her waist maybe a little higher

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Continue to flirt with her...

    eye contact is good... don;t do the mistake that some guys does,... looking at her private parts... because she might have a negative image of you...

    Is she single??/ if YES.. you are free to ask her out.. but pls if you take things gradually.. and you do them with a little patience it can do a differneceA guess you want a seripus realtion ship with her for the future no??? not just only a date...

    If only a date.. you can ask her now.. if a seripus relation ship.. take time,.. and plan it well so you ll suceed...

    An idea for a meeting.. is.. ask hr look i have ytogo shopping and i need second opion will you comee???....

  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    cool it with the eye contact you'll come across as a stalker. The hugs always long semi hard hugs.

  • WC
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Never be ashamed to show affection with a hug or a kiss, if it is done in an appropriate manner.

  • 1 decade ago

    Eye contact-look away after she or you is finished with sentence.

    Hugs-you should think as a good handshake. Strong and firm but don't crush her bones

  • 1 decade ago

    Stop thinking and just hug!

  • 1 decade ago

    sounds like she may like you too.

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