Are you embarassed to tell your friends your dating a fat girl? Be honest men.....?

Why would you date a fat girl anyway? You must be desperate

I'm not sure how old you are but take it from the "older" woman here who's pushing 40; happily married; 5 children and who is a "big" girl now!

Up until my "older" years, I was pencil thin, cutesy figure, wore junior size clothes, paint on jeans and was a "hottie". What I was able to figure out greatfully in my teen years was that I could look inside a person and see who they truly were, accept them for what they were and had a wonderful time. There were others though that also wore the same sized clothes, dated only thin people and guess what. They're divorced, unhappy, have no children or those who have children have grown up just as shallow. They've reduced themselves to being workaholics, living in the bars looking for mr or ms right and it's pitiful.

Ya still with me? Read on.

If you are asking this question then you need to reevaluate why you are dating this girl to begin with. If you are with her because you truly love being with her, accept her for who she is, and see the inner beauty as well, then stand proud and tell your "so called friends" to shove off. You don't need that type of friend. However, if you feel like you need to sneak around with her and are scared that your friends are going to find out that you are dating someone that is not magazine perfect; I suggest you give this girl the decency of being honest with the real reasons you are with her and go on your way and I pray you grow up some before you end up like the many people I mentioned above.

It seems that the young crowd feels like if they are not with someone who is "picture perfect" then they will not be happy. The truth is, if that is how your friends are and you are living your life, you will be forever miserable because you cannot truly look at people and see everything. Just because someone has weight on them, or has a disability or has some other "glitch" that deems them unworthy of the "A" list, does not mean that these people don't have feelings and it does not mean that they are not capable of being your best friend, your husband, wife, etc. You'd be surprised at how wonderful people are when they're "not" perfect.

I'm living proof that I'm still loveable even though I'm not a size 10 anymore. And, I have wonderful friends who are supportive and there through the good and the bad.

I wish you luck, and I hope that you can figure out what's really going on in your head and your heart before somebody gets hurt emotionally in the process.

It really depends on what circle of friends I'm in at the time. If I'm in a group in which everyone would actually care if I had a fat girlfriend, then yes I might care to tell my friends - but not because I'm embarrassed of her; just because I can see them all pressuring me to dump her ASAP, which is never a fun time. If I wasn't with a group of friends who would care? Then of course, I wouldn't be embarrassed.

Well, when I start dating a girl,she must be slim, but once we are together and she becomes 300 or even 400 pounds, I would still love her. Even if one day ever she becomes disfigured or if there was an accident, I wouldn't be shy to go out with her. That's just my honest opinion.

seems like you are. Are you hiding her from them? Why are you with her? for sex?

IF she is fat and it bothers you...take her to the gym with you or give her a workout in bed.

Generally in a relationship most women do try to look their best (work out more, dress well, smell great) even though they want to be accepted for who they are.

Of course not. Why should I let what a friend thinks worry me? If a friend has concerns with her mental makeup, I'll listen. If he has concerns about her weight, I don't care.

I dated a girl who was a bit large she was awesome most real person I ever met. They are really good at oral too

Most larger girls I know are more happy, fun and have a big heart! There should be no prejudice when dating larger girls at all.....

weight isnt an issue..i am fat and my hubbyis skinny...he proud of me and we are happy as can be...be real and not fake..love her for her

no. if she wasn't someone special, i wouldnt be dating her