Fiance lying to me again...?

Look at the pattern, he was lying to you before you were engaged so what makes you think that he would stop. I don't think he's serious about the relationship. You cannot straighten him out unless he's ready to be 100% committed to you.

I am sorry but you can't get him to straighten out. You may make him a better liar and may full yourself into thinking that he is a better man but he won't be. Really you need to get out of the relationship as soon as possible. There is not even a 1% chance that he will change not after 4 times. You can't change other people and if he wanted to change he would have long ago.

The reason he is upset is that you caught him. People often do this when caught they blame the person who challenges them even if they are the party that was hurt.

My advice is get away and never look back. You may want to sometimes because you miss some of the great times you had but don't give into temptation he is not the man for you.

I don't think the question should be how to straighten him out but why are you still there?

First of all a prospective husband should have and show respect for his prospective wife. He is not doing that. He has other women and he is lying. Is that showing respect? Is that having respect???

Second you need to have it for yourself. If you show that you are willing to accept it all then why shouldn't he treat you like ****?

You are showing it by staying there and letting him do this.

If for example you had a job where your boss told you he wanted only you to work and then brought in another person and gave you only half time and her the other time how would you react? You might take it but when he didn't pay you the right amount would you still take it? Then when he started yelling at you and cussing at you and calling you names would you leave your job? Why because you deserve respect right?

Same thing.

He will not straighten out. He has lied more than once and calls you names when he is in the wrong. This is just a preview of what you are in for. I would find a man that will treat you better, will not lie and will not spend time with other women behind your back.

OMG I am going through the EXACT same thing. Seriously, every detail is almost the same. For a second I questioned if someone was writing this on my behalf!

What I am doing (as I am at the same spot you are right now) is not talking to him. I've told him how truly hurt and disappointed I am in him, his lack of decision making skills and that it's hard knowing that I trust him and love him so much but he continues to play these games, passes the blame off and belittles me every time he gets busted. I've told him that I hope someday he realizes all the damage he has caused and that I'm going to give him some time to think about it. So now I'm on day 1 (going into day 2) of no contact. This will either give him the chance to think about things (our relationship) and decide if he really loves and respects me enough to be honest and stop with the BS or if he's going to continue on with these other women. Part of me definitely fears him chosing them over me but in the long run, if he does go that route, it's his loss. He's already a proven liar, how much longer does he really expect you to put up with it? If he truly loved you and respected you he wouldn't be pulling this crap.

Unfortunately, even though I'm hopelessly addicted and in love with my fiance, I have a very strong feeling that he isn't the one for me. I know that someone who really does love me won't do these kinds of things and intentionally hurt me and go out with girls behind my back just because "I pissed him off". What kind of immature bs is that?

Ask yourself, do you really need to continue putting up with that? Do you think that if you DO get married, that things will really change? If you have children together, would you be setting the right example for them by staying with someone that continues to disrespect and lie to you? Do you REALLY think he loves you?

You deserve better (just like I do), and I think we both know it.

But give him a week or so to think if over. Tell him you are going give him some time to think. Stress to him that this does NOT mean you are broken up (he'll take this as an opportunity to cheat) and that he needs to figure out if you are really what he wants in life.

Good Luck! Let me know how it goes cuz seriously, I'm going through the exact same thing, except mine had a 3 month affair behind my back 1 month after having our baby. Its so sad and hurtful.

I would give him the ring. Don't break up with him, because with enough time and effort, you may be able to fix this. Tell him that when he is ready to grow up, and commit himself to you, then you will accept his hand in marriage. But until then, he needs to prove that he wants to be with you, and only you. He really needs to learn of other ways to deal with his anger, and it isn't healthy for either one of you, or the relationship for him to be dealing with it by going out with his ex's. He is looking for the one way to hurt your feelings the most, which is a red flag when it is something as serious as going out to dinner, not just texting or talking. Let him know that you are willing to work at your relationship, and that if he isn't willing to dedicate himself only to YOU, no matter how angry he may get, then he needs to spend some time away getting to know himself, and what he wants in life.

You don't need someone that is going to hurt you that bad. I really hope that you two can work on this and fix it, before it becomes too damaged. I wish you the best of luck!!!

You can't get him to "straighten" out. He is a liar and a cheater, and he is not going to change for you, as you should be well aware of by now. The only thing you can do is stop wasting your time on him. And you can certainly forget any plans you might have had to marry him.

This is where most women go wrong. The question 'How do I straighten him out?'. Guys can't be straightened out as we aren't trainable. We are adults with our own opinions and behavioral problems. If you want a guy who will be faithful and kind then go out and find that guy. Don't get a guy who is the opposite and then try and train him as it won't work.

Why do you allow yourself to be treated like this? Give your head a shake.......do you think it's going to get any better? And no...he shouldn't be kissing your butt because you should be leaving his butt behind !!!!

honey, what color are the clouds in your world?

If he does this to you now I can promise you that he'll do it when you are married. You may love him but he sounds like he's very controling, dishonest and immature. Are those really things you want in the father of your children? If he's taking his ex to dinner I wonder if she's dessert? I would imagine so.