why is she not meeting?

It is up to you. If you want to wait for her, then do it. But don't put your life on hold. She may never come around. I would keep pursuing her, but don't put all your eggs in her basket. Seek out other women to meet and casually date.

Btw, Kwame's days are numbered!!!

I don't know why she won't meet, but I would love to know the answer. I have the same problem in reverse. He won't meet. He always says he's interested in wants to meet, but it never happens. It seems like when I ask him his answer is always soon. However, soon never seems to come. I am 38, and he is 41. I am still waiting and will probablhy wait forever. Some people don't understand, but I guess I have to know. If I move on without waiting I'll never know what might have happened. I wish he would see this and answer so I could know what the deal is.

To the guy who answered right ahead of me:

It is a game chicks play to keep their egos inflated knowing that they could be out with a guy if they want to, they just are soooo special that they are waiting for their Prince Charming and they have already decided, you are just one of the Seven Dwarfs.

Well, if it's a game it's not just one that chicks play. Obvisiously guys play it too. Because the guy I'm talking about won't meet. He just keeps saying soon. So, don't put it all out there like only females string guys along. Males string women along all the time.

Gosh..... it could be a million things sweetie..

Anyone who tries to answer this question with one reason is crazy!

It can very well be that she's stringing you along.

It can be that she is scared, not ready, insecure w/her outter self, worried you wont like what you see, worried she wont like what she sees, nervous about what will happen afterwards, scared yal wont click & then throw a yrs worth of getting to know each other down the drain, confused about the dating scene,scared she'll get those feelings all over again @ 34 yrs old, cold feet...

And many more but you get the idea.

We can continue this guessing game or you can just call her up and tell her "I HAVE to meet you.. it can be in public and briefly, no worries, no big expectations, just a hello, a cup of coffee, and then we part & think about what we felt LATER we don't have to decide right then and there... what do you think?"

if she still denies.. then just tell her that you are feeling stronger for her than she is for you & because of that you have to stop all communication before you get hurt.

She'll either agree to stop talking or quickly decide she must put her worries/fears aside and take a risk for love.

If she were really interested in pursuing a relationship, she would have wanted to met up with you by now.

Don't put your eggs in her basket because she it sounds like she is stringing you along as a "spare" until she meets someone she really wants to hook up with.

It is a game chicks play to keep their egos inflated knowing that they could be out with a guy if they want to, they just are soooo special that they are waiting for their Prince Charming and they have already decided, you are just one of the Seven Dwarfs.