How do you "let go" of things instead of getting mad?

Anger is a normal human emotion, so it is not healthy to try and blow it off or ignore it. It is important to be aware of our response to anger and the level of anger we feel in a given situation. We need to question if the anger we are feeling is appropriate for the circumstance, or is there an underlying emotion attached.

If you are feeling anger at these people, consider that you are building up anger every time these things happen. As it happens again, you are bringing the anger from the previous situations to the present. The anger may be magnified.

I too have been doing this lately....the other day a man drove into a parking space ahead of me. I thought he did it on purpose and I yelled and swore at him. He told me he didn't see me. After a few minutes, I realized that I over reacted and was acting out of built up anger from all the past events.

People following too close in cars.

Slower cars not pulling to the right.

People throwing garbage on the ground.

Loud and obnoxious people in theatres.

Rude servers at restaurants.

The list can go on forever.

An important thing to realize is that these people are not doing these things TO us. They are in their own world and most of the time don't even realize what they are doing. If it is not on purpose, then you would be just as well to get angry at a rainy day, or an accident on the road while you are trying to get to work on time. These things are not under your control.

This doesn't mean that you become a carpet to be walked on...we have to stand up for ourselves. But we need to react appropriately and know when to act or to just "let it go".

I love the movie "Falling Down" with Michael Douglass. Sometimes I wish I could do what he did! LOL

Don't waste your emotions. They will only drain you. If you know who this guy is that splashed you, then get a hold of him and ask him why he would do such a rude thing. It could just be that he was swerving to avoid something in the road. Pick and choose what you decide to retaliate against. I live in south Florida, and I've driven all over the country so I already know that Floridians are the worst drivers in the country. They cut you off, dart out in front of you, ride your butt or just plain do stupid things, usually due to the fact that they are more interested in talking on their cell phones than they are paying attention to traffic. If I got upset everytime someone cut me off, or did some other dastardly deed, I'd die of stress in a week.

Don't get me wrong, there ARE times that you should get angry and lash out at the perpetrator, but just be wise as to how and when you do so, and don't let it get inside you. Lifes too short....don't make it any shorter with negativity. Good Luck!!

Seriously count to 10 I have really bad mood swings to do with my hormones I have a mini-pill which helps plus I try to think where possible the consequences of my actions. Believe me I have blown up and just as quickly as I got mad I got sad that I had done it!

This sounds ridiculous, but it always works for me.

I pretend I have an imaginary small giraffe, and a must pet it from its head all the way down to its back.

As you go to pet the top, breath in, then let out as you stroke down the giraffes neck.

Plus, you get to laugh at yourself because you are an adult with an imaginary pet giraffe, and that's pretty silly!!

It works for me :)

Wow, when that happened to me I would just say in public -I really don't care what other people think, when something like that happens and I would get so much embarrased- I would yell, f**cking b*astaaaard!!! in my country I speak dutch so I would yell: Vuilen dikke smerige klootzaaaak!!!

it s not that we don t get upset we just don t show it publicly

I may make a comment like that was just rude

I wait until I get home to plot against them just as u r doing now also their r certain things that we can t control so in thoses cases I just thank goodness I m not like them