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Can you really take back something you have already said?

My BFs dog has been biting me consistently for the past three months. His biting me really bothers me and I will not stand for it to continue happening. But last night when I was talking to my BF about it, he said that I am the only one that is or has been bothered by dog biting. Almost after he heard what he said he asked to take it back and I let it slide. Yet I wonder, if he said it, he must have actaully been thinking that the problem is mine since I am the only one that cares if the dog bites.

Is a slip of the tongue just something we are actually thinking but it sounds terrible to say it or do we actually say things we dont mean?

Update:

I meant to say in the first paragraph that he say I am the only one bothered by HIS dog biting.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I think that everyone says things sometimes without thinking them through. Then once they do they realize it wasn't what they meant to say at all. No harm, no foul.

    And the whole Freudian slip thing.

    I had a friend with a dog that bit (nibbled) all the time and it drove me bonkers. Don't feel bad about not being cool with his dog chomping on you. It doesn't mean you don't like the dog. He really should be discouraging the dog from that behaviour. It could do it to someone who is not so understanding one day and it could have really bad consequences.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well, we have all been through a point in time when we get really angry, frustrated or have a high intensity feeling, and maybe he was goin thru that. And as we all know, when this happens it doesn't have to be thought about it all to come out of your mouth. Maybe sit back down with him and say that you would appreciate the dog kept away from you when you are present. Don't completely say you ahte his dog, or that you don't want anythign to do with it, it may upset him as well. And he might be frustrated because he feels pressured to chose between you and "Man's best friend."

  • 1 decade ago

    Your BF is more concerned of his dog than yours girl.... sad to say that. For me what comes out from the is originated from the brain, that was his thinking, that's the real attitude of your BF, and don't try to expect for a change. Most men often say words and after seeing the person was offended they will just say forget it it's nothing. But for us girls we first think of what we are going to say because we are more sensible. I think I've answered your question clear. For an advice, if you loved your BF you must accept him, all of him...in and out. But if you love yourself ... try to think first before you stay longer in your relationship. Remember it's just a DOG! think of his family members.... how many of them that you will not mind biting you!!! i wish you got my point!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Maybe he meant that you're the only one the dog bites, but it didn't come out that way.

    People mean everything they say. They may wish they hadn't said it, but they always mean it.

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  • He is being insensitive, and people like that should be tossed to the curb! spesh since you have tried to talk to him about it, adn he obvi didn't care too much! try again, explain to him that it hurts and its annoying, and ask him to remove the dog while you are around, like lock it in the kitchen, while you spend time together at his house..and if he still a fool about it drop him.

  • I am really bad about not thinking before I speak it is hard to take back something once it is spoken it is your choice to forgive and not

  • 1 decade ago

    The bell cannot be unrung. Find someone else, this one has gone around the bend.

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